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02/04/2015 at 22:59
Did anyone tell their work they were having IVF treatment?
Were they supportive/understanding?
Did you take time off work and if so how many days and at what stages during treatment process?
03/04/2015 at 12:08
Not IVF but I ended up telling my manager about my Clomid treatment as I had loads of appointments and it was getting too stressful to keep making up excuses once I'd used up all my annual leave. He was really supportive and it felt like a massive weight off my shoulders.
04/04/2015 at 07:41
I had been dreading telling my boss, but I was so surprised and relieved at how amazingly supportive he was. I figured it would be easier to be honest rather than have to make up excuses every time I needed to vanish for a scan at short notice. I was off work for a week between egg collection and embryo transfer - I had a particularly bad time at EC, some people only take a couple of days there but my boss had no problem with me taking the week. I had EC on the Monday, and had to be available on the Thurs for day 3 transfer if required. As it happened we went for day 5 transfer, and the Friday was Good Friday anyway. Also I had to go in late or leave early on a number of days due to scans and blood tests throughout.
04/04/2015 at 20:15
I'm not at IVF stage yet but I did share with my boss that we were having issues as I had to go to a few appointments and he was great. I've told him i may need more time off depending on how things go and he's been very supportive so far.
07/04/2015 at 10:47
If you feel comfortable I would definitely tell your boss about the IVF as there are lots of appointments / days off you will need during the process. At the beginning you'll need time out of work for your injection teach when you start the down regulation medicine, then a few weeks later you'll need time off for a scan to see if your womb lining is thin enough. You'll then start the stimming stage, which lasts for about 2 weeks but the last week of this stage you'll have at the very least 3 scans, all 48 hours apart. This is to see how the follicles are doing and to make sure you don't over stimulate, so if you can imagine in a working week that's a Monday / Wednesday / Friday, these scans can take some time because of all the measuring that they have to do on each ovary. Once they are happy with the maturity of the follicles, you'll then be scheduled for egg collection, which will be a few days after your last tracking scan, you'll need a full day off for this possibly more depending on what sedation they use, I had a general so had the following day off too as still felt a bit groggy, then depending on how your eggs do you'll be in for egg transfer a few days later, again I took the full day off for this, you don't need any anaesthetic for this procedure but you have precious cargo on board so it's important to take it easy afterwards. Some women prefer to take the full 2 weeks off afterwards but I think it just depends on what you do, I don't have a stressful job or anything that involves manual labour so I worked the whole 2ww as I felt comfortable doing so. It's whatever sits right for you. So with all of this in mind, I told my boss and he was great about it, he just told me to let him know when I wouldn't be around, no questions asked I was basically left to it. They were a huge support in the end. I think it would be more stressful to have to worry about constantly making up excuses especially with the amount of time off you'll need once you start stimming.
What stage are you at with everything?
07/04/2015 at 11:08
Thanks cl- very useful :-). I'm due for initial NHS visit on 24 April. Will then prob to have tests I've not yet had done then hopefully start treatment. All depends if NHS fund one cycle for me. If not I have started the process ie referred privately too.
07/04/2015 at 14:10
I told work as soon as H's results came back as it looked like we were headed to IVF (even though we were firstly referred for IUI in the end). Like Claire says, IVF requires days off rather than hours off as I understand it's physically - and emotionally - draining. In Denmark some companies also have the option to apply to get potential lost earnings reimbursed, although I have no idea how that works! Anyway - my manager was incredibly understanding and told me to put myself first so if you feel comfortable with it then I would definitely mention it.
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