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23/01/2015 at 15:22
Probably a TMI thread but, as it's so quiet on here, I thought, what's the harm?!
On a cycle basis, how often do you and your H DTD?
I'll go first - approx 8 out of a 24 day cycle - it's bit low, innit?!
23/01/2015 at 15:31
I think 8 times is pretty good!
I can only remember from looking at FF which are both my pregnancies so with Jack we only done it 5 times!
with William it was 8 times! and my cycles aren't regular!
23/01/2015 at 15:32
I think I'm around the same these days Tatyo as we try not to do it everyday and then we don't once the spotting starts or when af is here. We have had cycles where we have alot more but obviously didn't make any difference!
23/01/2015 at 15:35
Ok, I don't feel so bad then! Gonna cross post on BT to get some more responses......
23/01/2015 at 15:37
Pretty much the same as Lulu - anything from 6-12 of a 26 day cycle, depends on when the spotting starts and how busy we are! We try to aim for every other day, though relax a bit more after ov.
23/01/2015 at 16:10
I think 8 times is good! Ours has gone right down recently, we did it once around ov but haven't since. Not because I don't love him but ... well, I guess even though I'm still feeling positive about IUI I have to get my head round the fact that sex doesn't necessarily have to happen to mean babies. Last year I felt so low about it, knowing about the bad sperm quality that I have to admit I thought at more than one point "what's the point if it doesn't lead to babies?". But I didn't want to do it for the sake of doing it, but I guess both of us have had a bit of a hard time of it recently. I've also not been at my best mentally what with TTC and work giving me headaches. I just don't feel like it.
23/01/2015 at 16:25
We both agreed not to dtd just for the sake of it. Since trying for a baby we have been doing it 3-4 times a week. I track it on an app and this month (I'm cd23) we have only done it 8 times. I think you're fairly normal tayto don't worry ;)
23/01/2015 at 16:30
I reckon about 8 times in a 27 day cycle. However, the month I fell we on,y DTD twice before OV as I wasn't allowed to DTD prior to HyCoSy on CD9.
23/01/2015 at 19:19
Ok, defo good to know we're not unusual - I should add though that sometimes we've only managed a few and I can concur with enjayee on the just not feeling like it sometimes and not wanting to do it just for the sake of doing it!
Saff - only twice?? Ok, that's given me something to think about!
23/01/2015 at 20:49
Yep, HyCoSy on Thursday, DTD on Friday and Sunday, OV'd sometime between going to sleep on Sunday night and waking up on Monday morning.
23/01/2015 at 22:55
Just looked back at some of my charts and we dtd around 7/8 times in an average 30 day cycle. Its so easy for it to become all about making a baby - I was definitely guilty of that! but you can't help it, especially if you've been trying a while.
24/01/2015 at 15:09
Thanks ladies - you've been very helpful x
25/01/2015 at 10:33
Ha, you lot out do us spectacularly! We did 1 time in the past 4 months! Tbf we aren't TTC right now, but we're working on it.
27/01/2015 at 14:34
Best not to let H see this...He was lucky if he get's it once a week! whilst TTC we did it roughly 3 or 4 times over OV and that was it...Poor boy. I really owe him...we haven't dtd since i fell pregnant this time...
27/01/2015 at 19:14
Unfortunate dtd is very difficult due to me having vaginismus.
28/01/2015 at 19:33
We dtd pre-ttc very rarely, maybe once a month or even less. Even when TTC my husband wouldn't really get on board with the needing to dtd at certain times so it was a bit hit and miss. On average it was probably 4 to 6 times a cycle which when you consider my cycles are ridiculously long that's not very much at all. I had a few where we did it 10+ times but that's because it was one of my 70+ day cycles!
28/01/2015 at 19:39
Just been back to check my FF charts and the cycle I conceived we DTD 3 times :)
02/02/2015 at 14:11
We dtd probably 5-8 times a week depending on how often we see each other. It's not exactly comfortable, thanks to my endo, so we don't dtd for the sake of it, but we both have high libidos and still manage to make it good fun.
02/02/2015 at 15:54
When TTC we got into an awful trap of mainly dtd at the time of ov, my H didn't like it and used to say it felt like chore sex, if you averaged it out it was prob 10 times a month but 3 or 4 of those would be because of ttc not because we just wanted to. The month we conceived we'd probably only done it once or twice but I think we got lucky the first time after the HSG!
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