I was out dancing with my friends on saturday night - a very rare occurence since i had my son, so i went a bit ott with the cocktails.
My friend wouldn't get up and dance with me so she shouted for the guys at the next table to get on the dance floor with me, which they did and I spent most of the night chatting to them and dancing with them. They each asked me out (at separate times, great friends huh?!) and I told them both that I was married, but they were happy to keep chatting and dancing. I flirted a bit, but that was as far as it went. Though to be honest I didn't do much to discourage them as the attention was a great ego boost - being a mummy doesn't make you feel very sexy!!
When I got home I told hubby how glad I was to be married to him because of all the guys that chatted me up that night, none were nearly as gorgeous as him, so he knows I was getting plenty of attention and he trusts me.
So it's probably no big deal, but i was thinking about it today and i would hate to think of him spending a whole evening dancing and talking with another woman like that even if it was perfectly innocent.
Just wondering what everyone else thinks? Is it acceptable to go out and flirt with guys on a night out, as long as they know you are attached and you don't do anything more than just flirt?

hello

i think it totally depends on what you find acceptable as a couple, i have couple friends who would find this totally unacceptable and ones that would be fine with it.

i dont think anyones opinion really matters if you are both fine with it, but i think you need to be fine with your hubby doing it to do it yourself.

xxx

To be honest I'm a total flirt and love attention on a night out so I'm probably not a reliable source but I wouldn't say you did anything wrong!

I think every marriage should have a bit of "breathing room" so that you don't feel bad for being chatted up/flirting a bit/joking about. Obviously if it goes further then that's a bit worrying but it doesn't sound like it did?

Don't beat yourself up you were out having fun, life is too short not to soak up the compliments

Cent x

PS you must be a very yummy mummy, I think I will be written off forever when I have a bubba

I totally agree with centurion - although it does depend on what you deem to be acceptable in your relationship, as piggypops said, i know some people who would consider this cheating and woudl not accept it, but personally, this would not bother me at all..
I don't think you did anything wrong and in my eyes it certainly wasn't cheating, everyone needs a good flirt and bit of attention every now and again, as long as it doesn't cross the line then i think it's absolutely fine,.,x

Hi,

I agree with the others. if you and your husband are fine with harmless flirting then that's great. Like ILoveCupcakes, it depends on what you and your husband find acceptable.

My OH has no problem with this. I had a similar situation a couple of years ago, where a friend and I were dancing and I was messing with a group of lads next to us (singing into pretend microphones and doing Vic and Bob's legs rubbing) and my friend grabbed me and pulled me off the dancefloor saying that "the walls have eyes" - which she meant that my blokes best friend was working behind the bar - which I knew about!! I went home and told OH about it and we had a good laugh. Obviously, chatting to other men is not acceptable in her relationship.

xxx

As the others have said! If you're both happy then dont you stress about it but other people may find it not right but thats what works for them.
Ive been with my husband 6 years and you do need to feel as though you could still 'pull!!'

TBH i wouldnt be bothered about hubby dancing with other girls cos i know he comes home to me and wouldnt DARE cheat on me! lol