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05/10/2017 at 15:47
Just had the share this picture of my beautiful lily after her ballet lesson on Saturday 😍
05/10/2017 at 16:21
awwwwww what an absolute beauty!! :):):)
05/10/2017 at 17:39
Mumtolily, he was over the moon. I just kinda walked from the bathroom to the bedroom at 0530 Tuesday morning and was like 'theres a line! There's actually a line!!'. He knew o was testing. We just hope bean sticks!!
I'm getting a heavy feeling low down, I've read that it's normal, but everything is a little scary as this is about the time in my pregnancy I began to miscarry. So I don't know what was pregnancy symptoms or what was miscarriage symptoms. It's all so confusing. And I feel sick. Ha
05/10/2017 at 21:57
Kate, I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and had ERPC a few days later, I had my next AF exactly 6 weeks later but then my cycles have gone all over the place. My last one was 65 days 😳
Slinky, you’re bound to be nervous, it’s only natural after what we’ve been through! Sickness is a good sign though! 😊
Lovely pic Mumtolily xx
05/10/2017 at 23:24
I think we will all be nervous at th stage slinky maybe even the whole way through so don't worry about worrying 😛 Lovely pic mummy to lily she's beautiful x
06/10/2017 at 02:40
Mummytolily, your daughter is beautiful I ❤️ the pic😊
06/10/2017 at 06:50
I think another boy but I really don't mind what we are blessed with. Ryan is 10, Noah will be 7 in Jan and Emily-mai is 5. I think I have felt flutters but not sure x
06/10/2017 at 07:06
Congratulations Slinky, that’s amazing news 😁 so happy for you xx
It is super tough being pregnant after a loss, but do keep positive, look after yourself and listen to your body xx
06/10/2017 at 08:14
You're all amazing, thank you so much for your kind words. I wish you all the best of luck and tonnes of baby dust.
06/10/2017 at 17:55
Thought id update yous after my consultant appt...basically what came out of it was bot all! Gotta keep going basically, she said she would do a blood test for i think she said hemophillia but i may be wrong..something that causes minut clots, but i have to wait three months from last pregnancy and then they have to do it three month later, which im sure youll understand i dont really wanna do that! She advised work shouldnt have an effect (asked this as occ health suggested sick note till 12 weeks:im a nurse) she said she thinks as had mc every three month for nine month she thinks i should take a break because it cant be good for me mentally, said we could take asprin from first heartbeat but two mcs i havnt reached that point as here they dont scan till 6 weeks, said if i had another mc that she wants any tissues sent away and tested for chromosome defects ( very annoying as handed in 8 week sample and they didnt test for this then :( ) said could think about asprin from first bfp if had fourth mc, said sex wouldnt have an effect. I dont really know how i feel about it, dont get me wrong i didnt expect any miricale but i still have a lot of unanswered questions :/ just gonna have to keep hopeful! Has anyone else on here had appt? She also said progesterone trial showed no difference so they dont give that now!
If you dont mind me asking, how old are you guys? Im 25 xxxx
06/10/2017 at 18:06
Thats the one!
06/10/2017 at 18:19
bobble that sounds like a lot to take in! I have read about people taking aspirin before during pregnancy, I don't understand why you would have to wait for a 4th miscarriage to try it though? Did she explain why? Maybe you could write down all the questions you have for your next appt so that you don't miss any? Has she said you can keep ttc? It's a shame they didn't test last time as you could of had some answers by now, but at least you know if it happens again (fingers crossed it doesnt) that that's something they will do, I really hope you get some answers soon, I'm 24
06/10/2017 at 18:27
She didnt really explain; said that you have yo wait for HB as could cause MC if taken during implantation :/ she said she wants me to have these tests but im not happy waiting six month without trying, ive already lost a year! She hasnt even booked any further appts just a blood test with HCA :/ xx
06/10/2017 at 20:17
Surely she should of booked another appt for 6months time (surely she should of explained why 6months wait as I wouldn't be happy waiting 6months either) and then had your bloods done inbetween so she then had results to go by at your appt?! I don't get half these consultants sometimes. All knowledge and books but actually no sense of compassion or common sense 🤔
I'm 30 in December xx
06/10/2017 at 20:43
Oh Bobble, I really hope you get the answers you're searching for. I don't understand why the health care professionals can't give straight answers or reasonings, like Charley said, surely you should have been given an advance appointment.
I've just turned 31 in September.
06/10/2017 at 21:48
She just said other than the blood test theres nothing they can do, i asked about asprin and progesterone, and i asked whether they do USS of uterous and she said well youve already three internals (with each mc) but i didnt think they looked for stuff i thought theyd just be looking for sac/baby with those USS. I asked if they tested sperm or eggs and she said they dont do that with people who can concieve just people who cant get pregnant. The blood test has to be done three month apart apparently and at least 3 month from last pregnancy, but surely to wait that long is a lot to ask people to do! I asked about why epu wouldnt do hcg tests when ive asked and why they didnt do chromosome check on foetus and basically its all money related. She literally never mentioned another appt, the only advice she really gave was to have a break but she said it wasnt for my body as cycle is back to normal but for mental health (i lit sobbed most of the way through) the only other thing she said was she would be happy to my consultant but going forward she hasnt really gave me a plan of action! X
07/10/2017 at 11:09
Bobble, I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time and not getting the suppor Xxx
My experience hasn't been quite as bad, but it really does strike me that honestly no one has a clue why this happens to us! Every story of medical piece of advice I read I can then find at least 2 of 3 that then suggest the opposite! It's heartbreaking and I'm so sorry you have had 3! I've had 1 and it's been hard enough!
I do also think you should be kind to your body... you've literally had a sustained trauma and are understandably emotionally raw... maybe taking some time off would be good for you xxx rest a bit and get mentally stronger xxx
I completely understand that you are just desperate to be pregnant again - in the same and some days it comepletely consumes me in grief... but I also don't think my body is ready yet.
Im sending you a huge hug xxxx be kind to youself xxx
and I am 30 :-) so a bit older than you so you still have lots of time on your side xxx I don't want that to come across as patronising by the way, just that I mean you are allowed to give your body some time to heal xxx
07/10/2017 at 11:20
Kate777 thanks for your advice, i probablys do need to have a break or else ill probablys end up in an asylum if things keep going down the same road lol! The problem i have is me and OH dont organise when and where or use ovulation kits or anything (very lucky in this sense) we just do it when we want and i seemed to fall pretty easily so to stop that happening I would have to work out dates etc :/
Totally get what you mean about the research thing it is so frustrating! Im a nurse and even i struggle to understand the variation of answers or advice, they all seem to contradict each other
Hope your well also, i dont think it matters whether youve had one or ten, all feels the same :/ xxxx
07/10/2017 at 11:31
Bobble I think kate could be right in giving your self some time to heal mentally, although I also understand in you wanting to be pregnant again it must be such a tough decision for you to make, I don't actually think they know what causes them to happen and sadly it is just one of those things we have to go through as heartbreaking as it is, I burst into tears yesterday morning because my boss wanted me to go on the till at work and I just couldn't bare acting happy when I'm not, I served two customers on the til yesterday and the second bought pregnancy test when she was clearly visibly pregnant god knows why she was buying one she clearly knew already, I feel a bit of a mess and think it's been made worse this week by the first couple of days I had sharp pains in my left side and the rest of the week I've felt nauseous, which I read can be ovulation or implantation so I'm driving myself a bit mad at the moment and I think first thing in the morning I am going to take a test and put my mind at rest and whatever it says then I'll believe it and wait for af, nothing about this situation is easy and i feel like Itll never get any easier for me ☹️
07/10/2017 at 13:18
Mummytolily im totally with you on that one, i was convinced this month, ive took two tests and BFNs both times, ive had AF but still getting very obvious twinges, and with AF coming three days early i thought it could of been inplantation, i didnt even mention this to consultant as thought she might think am a loony when ive hae AF! I have good days most of the time but it crops up every now and then and i just feel mental like really depressed and like nothings worth it anymore but this only happens about once every six weeks but i dont speak to doc about this as theyll just offer tablets and i dont want to go on medication if you get me! Hoping your feeling a lot better today, let us know what test says! Xxxx
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