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15/01/2015 at 12:03
We're starting this continuation new thread because we're having some issues with the original thread (which is here: http://www.madeformums.com/forum/trying-to-conceive/trying-to-get-pregnant-after-a-miscarriage/161531-131.html) that mean it's not possible to post on it any more.
We're working as hard as we can to find a way to fix that but, in the meatime, please use this thread to keep talking!
16/01/2015 at 07:25
Hi, I recently suffered a miscarriage on Christmas day,I was 7 weeks.it's the worst pain I've ever felt.first time pregnant and it got ruined by this pain.it's been nearly 3 weeks since the bleeding has stopped.I'm Currently in 2ww,got a week or so left til I can take a test or I might get af.here's hoping xx
16/01/2015 at 07:30
I found the other forum for this very helpful with my grieving.my family or friends didn't know what to do and made it a taboo subject.my oh was upset but isn't one to share emotions,so I've felt alone in all this:( I now know I'm not alone in this xx
16/01/2015 at 19:55
I'm so sorry to hear of you mc- especially to happen on Christmas Day. also very sorry to hear - that your family and friends aren't supportive! that's just awful- sounds like you need new friends? Anyway, I'm glad these forums have helped. I mc on 12/12/14 - mc naturally but had to have ercp on same day anyway. I was 12 Weeks, but baby stopped growing at approx 9 weeks :-(. have no idea if I'm in my tww as have no idea when my af will return. Had ewcm few days before nye and usually my af arrives 15 days later in normal cycle, but this isn't a normal cycle so just dont know :-/ Anyway, I hope you are doing ok- time is great healer. doesnt stop you thinking about it but you learn to cope and train self to look forward and be hopeful for next pregnancy.
16/01/2015 at 23:49
I also had a natural m/c by the time they got a scan in to see what was going on,the nurse told me there was nothing left and I was left a bit distraught as I was away on holiday when the bleeding started :( and I never got a chance to see the lil lentil at all.I'm hoping my next pregnancy won't be the same. I'm sorry that your going through this too Elvi,I have no idea when my af will return,I think I ovulated last week and that's why I'm estimating but we will see:)
17/01/2015 at 03:13
Charrz I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is difficult for people to see others in pain and don't know how to react when they haven't experienced such before. My family also treats my MC as a taboo subject. My mother makes comments at times she'll comment about wanting grand babies, but never acknowledges my loss. My friends are super supportive, but I've found that family has a hard time being supportive. I'm hoping for all of our BFP soon.
17/01/2015 at 18:23
so sorry for your losses.
Just wanted to share my story with you all.
ttc my first. Came off the pill end of may had a period in June and July. I noticed I spotted around 10dpo and did some research around this began taking vitamin b and fell pregnant the following month In August. This was a chemical and I did not get to 5 weeks. Prior to getting this bfp I had a lot of sharp pains and knew this wasn't right. Increased my b vitamin and fell pregnant again in September, this seemed much more positive no pains and a strong line unfortunately that ended in a chemical again just before 5 weeks. Following this I fell pregnant again in November. This seemed much more positive had symptoms at 11dpo compared to the other 2 at 13dpo and there was no spotting! Had horrendous morning sickness and thought things were looking good. Unfortunately I began to spot and when I went for a 12 week scan was told there was no heart beat. Finding things difficult as have pretty much been pregnant since the summer but no further forward. Going to the docs to see about tests however this isn't until feb. In a way I don't want to wait and want to try again but at the same time I need to know it is safe as I couldn't go through this again at the moment. Anyone have any advice? I have read the more you miscarry the more likely it is to happen again! Feeling really unsure and not sure if these are linked or not. Sorry for the essay x
17/01/2015 at 19:21
Im so sorry for your loss. You are going through so much. Sounds like you should definitely get some test to see what is causing the early miscarriages. My heart goes out to you. I lost my baby in July and have been trying since then. I treat each 2 ww as if I'm pregnant, and it feels like I've been pregnant forever as I'm hopeful each month especially as my due date approaches. I can only imagine the thrill you have felt with each pregnancy and devastating loses to follow. What an awful roller coaster. Big hug to you. I think for your mental/emotional health you have decide if you need a break until doctors have answers for you or if you are strong enough to take care of yourself through another pregnancy and possible loss. Stasticly from what I've seen it looks like with each loss our chances of additional losses increases. However, I say we all treat each pregnancy as it will be successful. I'm hoping you get some answers and solutions soon. Keep us updated! If you decide to give it a try let us know. I will keep you in my thoughts. My heart really goes out to you. Im hoping 2015 will be a good year for us all.
17/01/2015 at 20:08
Well here i am again (well im new to this thread but a regular on the old one)
hi all. little bit about me, im 25. fell preg after taking Clomid in Nov 2012 after 4 yrs TTC. I miscarried over new year and lost baby between 6-8 weeks. id heard heart beat twice :( It then too me and hubby nearly 5 months to conceive again. Our pride and joy was born in Feb and will be 1 in 18 days!! however, since he was born we have never used contraception at all and had no luck again. this month i started using OPKs for the first time. I got a positive on the 14/1/15 and again on the 15/1/15 and hubby and i DTD. i guess now im on my 2WW. AF due the 29th i think (not all cycles are the same for me) however im not positive as things have never been easy for us on our journey. if its a BFN im going to try Soy Isoflavones to ensure my ovulation and give it a kick up the butt. i have one round of Clomid left from last year, and will try that at some point too but not with the Soy Isos. Not sure if we will qualify for Clomid again, but im gonna give it to the summer and if nothing then go to the DRs and see what they recommend. I guess i never thought that becoming preg would be a problem. my two older sisters have had no problems at all. u take for granted the things you think will just 'happen' and its not until they dont that you actually realise how much you want something. Fingers crossed for everyone. Baby dust to all
17/01/2015 at 20:59
thank you for your update. I'm sorry for your difficulties with ttc. Your story brings me hope in knowing that there are these positive stories after heartache. I'm going into my 7th month ttc after my MC. You're so right, we take for granted the idea of getting preg will just happen, and I think that's part of the heartahce. I hope your dream of adding to your family will come true soon. Do you think your doctor will give you clomid again? Baby dust to you And all that read this! Keep us updated.
17/01/2015 at 21:14
im not sure, but thats why im gonna wait til summer time so they cant fob us off with try harder.
im sorry to hear your family havent been the most supportive. mine were much the same. we lived with my mother at the time and she just could not let me grieve in my own way. kept treating me like a child and telling me to get back to work and to get out of bed. i suppose different people just deal with things in different ways and im glad we no longer live with her! i hope your partner was supportive though. again, they dont really understand what we go through. its not just the fact we are no longer pregnant. its the what we have to go through with the miscarriage. i had an early scan about 5+5 with my fertility nurse. preg confirmed and saw the sac, yolk etc. She said it was very early and i was lucky to see anything. started bleeding on the 28th of Dec 2012. went to the EPU for a scan and baby was fine, heard heartbeat etc. i was 6+2. bleeding then stopped. it then started again on 30th and it was so much worse. I knew that was it. went for another scan, saw heartbeat and was told baby was fine, although the lining of my womb had started to come away. told me it would either restick or MC would start. I then went for a scan with my fertility nurse around the 7th Jan, and she confirmed nothing was there. she said she thought id passed everything. Hubby and i went to the cinema afterwards. we wanted to spend the day together and the cinema was a way of doing so without having to actually talk about it. it was at the cinema i passed the clot of what would have been the baby. there was no mistaking it. i wrapped it in the toilet tissue, folded it all up warm, kissed it then flushed. that was my way of saying goodbye, as weird as it sounds. i didnt function for months, but went back to wrk after 2 weeks for some normality. my husband pulled me through. it helps so much if u have someone there. this forum was also a god send to me then. im hoping i never have to go through anything like that again. and if i do, at least i know there are people i can talk to about it.
17/01/2015 at 21:16
Thanks baby dreamer and sorry for your loss. It is a long aNd stressful journey. I think I will just see what happens and go from there. I try to look at it that the first two we're very early and a lot of people would not have known they were pregnant.
How ow far gone were you when you miscarried? How long have you been trying for? Hopefully will be a better year for everyone on this thread.
linzi sorry for your loss and glad to hear your little 1 is going to be 1. I have known people have clonus on their second pregnancy. I usually ovulate the day after my last positive opk so you may have ovulated on the 16th. AF is then usually due 14 days after that. Good luck xx
17/01/2015 at 21:19
yeh i think we missed the boat this month, being the first month back on the OPKs. forgot how they work. next month we arre just gonna dtd every 2 days after last + OPK for a week just to be sure, although hubby dont know that yet. he hates all the regimentedness of it all xxx
17/01/2015 at 21:48
I think your be covered Linzi as you need to dtd leading up to ovulation so you should be fine good luck x
17/01/2015 at 21:49
My hubby the same Linzi he finds it stressful not looking forward to going back to that so may just see how it goes without when we start trying again x
17/01/2015 at 21:53
hubby works nightshift. he knows ive been doing the OPKs and i was just wakening him up a wee bit earlier to dtd so thats why we only dtd on the days it was positive just now as i didnt want him over tired for his 12 hr nightshift, plus he has an hour drive there and back. next time we will try the every 2nd day for a bit longer and see what happens. xxx
17/01/2015 at 22:10
I'm really sorry for you losses, really hope the next few months will be kind to you and you get your bfn.
i mc and had a d&c 5 weeks ago yesterday. I had inkling might be preg again earlier this week so promised self would test this weekend. I have got a faint positive but i am not excited as I am worried this may be from previous pregnancy- I know this is a possibility. When I had my d&c they told me I may bleed up to two weeks, but they didn't ask me to come back to get hcg levels checked and I stupidly didn't take a test myself to check neg. I was just so upset during this period that i didn't think and now I just have no clue. i guess I will continue to test to see if lines gets darker over the coming days...I now I can get bloods checked but.i can't bear the thought of going back to the epu at the moment. Argh, I'm such an idiot - I guess this is why some advice tells you to wait for af- so you are not in limbo.
17/01/2015 at 22:14
awe Elvi. stay positive. on one hand you could be preg! and on the other at least your body is working towards normality. the wait to see must be awful. i remember with my first pregnancy i did a test every day until i started bleeding as i couldnt believe i had finally become preg. the 2nd time i only did 2 as i didnt want it to take over my life again. but when i did do the tests everyday the line became stronger very quickly so you will soon know. fingers crossed for you xxx
and your not an idiot. your human xxx
17/01/2015 at 22:37
thank you!. I cant help feel a bit silly though even though im not the first. I guess my biggest fear isn't not being pregnant (although that would be wonderful), but that it might mean have retained products, or it's taking ages for my levels to go down which may be sign of a prob. I haven't had any reason to think I hadn't recovered normally after the op Until now. I guess only time will tell. Fingers crossed for your bfp soon x
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