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28/06/2013 at 09:57
Hope you are all doing ok. I had a MC last week (you may have seen my post) whilst in HKG. I'm doing ok and assuming my cycles come back normally my H & I will start TCC-ing in August.
My question is to those of you with experience of MC's, how can you ever relax even a tiny bit in the first 12 weeks if TCC-ing is sucessful?
Would love to hear any ''sucess stories'' to give me a boost!
28/06/2013 at 10:08
Firstly i am so so sorry that you have found yourself in this position. I too have been through a MC, almost a year ago to date and i know how you are feeling right now so want to send you a massive hug!
There are many people will hopefully come and comment with their success stories which will hopefully make you feel a little bit more positive about things.
Given that it is very 'new' still to you, please remember to give yourself all the time that you need. Please don't worry if your cycles do not get back to normal straight away, mine went crazy for 7 months and it has only been recently that they have gone back to what they were pre-mc, but it is totally normal.
When you do get your bfp, to be honest no matter how hard to try to relax it will be hard - i am too dreading the part where i get my bfp! But i think if you keep talking to people (like us and people who have been in your situation), that will help get you through the weeks until your scan.
Please keep talking and please ask if you have any questions. Sadly its something that many of us have been through so there will be alot of experience here xxx
28/06/2013 at 10:26
I'm really sorry for your loss.
I have hd more than one loss but my most recent was just over 2 years ago. I conceived my daughter the cycle immediately after the mc (didn't have an AF in between). It was terrifying and now we are TTC #2 the memory of the fear is coming back. But you take one day at a time. We had an early scan with P and i'll pay for one this time if i don't get an NHS one as the wait until 12 weeks would be to much.
You will get there though i promise. I got gradually less scared and P was worth every second.
28/06/2013 at 15:37
I had two losses last year, in January and February, so when I found out I was pregnant again in April, I was bricking it. I set myself little milestones like getting past the gestation of the losses and then one week at a time. I also had an early reassurance scan at around 8-9 weeks. As AR said, you will get through it but I found the mcs took the shine off the pregnancy. I don't think I truly relaxed with L's pregnancy, and I was only happy when I brought her home.
Big hugs to you, and be kind to yourself xx
28/06/2013 at 15:49
So sorry for your loss.
I had a miscarriage in February last year, and it took 16 months for us to get pregnant again, I found out 2 weeks ago today. I’m 6 weeks now and just trying to take each day as it comes. I’m not going to lie, it’s scary and really really hard, but you will just manage. I’m having a scan a week on Monday to try and rest my mind a bit but it’s one of those things where you just have to find a way to muddle through.
Big hugs anyway xx
30/06/2013 at 20:22
Sorry you've gone through this Sue. Huge hugs and love to you xx
I had a mc in March and haven't managed to get pg again yet so can't answer your question about the worry aspect of the first 12 weeks but I think that's its pretty natural to feel like that.
My EPU said I could phone them direct for an early scan around 7-8 weeks if I get pregnant again. I don't need to contact my doctor first. It depends what area you live but you might be able to get something like that too which might settle your mind.
I think the main thing for you right now is to look after yourself and let yourself heal both mentally and physically. Each day will get easier as time passes but it's a hard thing to come through so don't be too hard on yourself. As you know, everyone in the forum is supportive so you know where to come if you need it xx
01/07/2013 at 04:02
So sorry you're going through this. I had a mmc last march. It took until August to conceive again and we pretty much started ttc straight away as to me preventing seemed wrong. It was hard going. I was terrified to start with and didn't get excited at all. I had hyperemesis so was in hospital at 7 weeks and was scanned then. We booked a private scan for 10weeks which is just after the heart stopped with the one before which reassured me slightly. Once I got past the 12 week scan I was ok until 24 weeks when I rotated worrying about him being prem like his brother .
Anyway, he arrived safely at term and is laid on me now!
Just take it easy in yourself. It'll hit you at random times.
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