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24/10/2013 at 20:25
Hi everyone, it seems I'm back on here again. I miscarried nearly 2 weeks ago and just want to know other peoples' experiences. I stopped bleeding 3 days ago which is good, and means I feel a lot more normal. However, we want to try again asap and of course I have no idea what my body is doing. How long did it take you ladies to have a period again? How can I work out ovulation etc if I don't have a period? I don't want to do daily OPKs! I am happy to go back to temps and charts, but without known cycle days, there's no point. I am aware that some people think we should be waiting, or to give it time, but we are both in agreement that we want to get back to normal asap, and for me that means at least having a basic idea of what my body's up to.
Thanks in advance xx
24/10/2013 at 20:29
No experience but just wanted to say how its lovely to hear you are in agreement and very best of luck
24/10/2013 at 20:34
The GP told me that we could try straight away, we didn't need to wait for me to have a period. I know a friend of mine was told the same thing.
I stopped bleeding about a week ago, I think? Thought I'd try doing an opk and it was positive so we're trying again. I haven't had a period yet so we'll see what happens.
24/10/2013 at 20:37
After William (TFMR at 18+5) I just Dtd every other day (once bleeding stopped) got a bfp that month but mc, then got a bfp 3 months later but mc again, we just waited for the bleeding to stop and Dtd every other day.
You shouldn't use opks or cbfm following a mc as hormones can give false readings
24/10/2013 at 20:59
I had two losses at the start of last year. We started ttcing immediately after the first loss, got a BFP but lost that one a few days later. I left it a cycle and got another BFP straightaway, the result is fast asleep in her room. The first day of bleeding is counted as CD1. I didn't use OPKs or temping, I just used FF as my losses were early on. I just kept an eye out for EWCM, and DTD a lot! There's no right or wrong way, just one that is comfortable for you, iyswim. xx
24/10/2013 at 21:12
After the first MC we tried again straight away and fell pregnant on the next cycle. However, we've now also lost this one so I think we'll give my body a full cycle before trying again. No medical reason for this - I just feel like I need to try and get my head straight.
24/10/2013 at 21:21
I had a mmc and an ERPC at 10 weeks so I'm slightly different but it took my body 6 weeks from the date of the ERPC to my first period. The EPU told me to do a pregnancy test every week as I don't think you will ovulate until there is no Pregnancy hormone left in your body.
Sadly my mc was in March and I'm still trying 7 months later. No idea why it's not happening because I'm doing everything right but I guess it's just one of these things.
If I were you I'd take this cycle as it comes as in just DTD when you feel like it and then start charting, temping, whatever after your period. They told me at the hospital that I didn't need to wait any number of cycles before trying again but if you feel you want to then you should just be careful for a few weeks.
Best of luck x
24/10/2013 at 21:22
As you can see from the icons below I've sadly had two mc this year.
I was told to have at least one cycle before trying again, both times.
First time I had my period and then we started trying straight away. We got a bfp that month, but sadly you can see how that ended at 18 weeks.
Second time we had to wait for a post mortem and further tests, so we're just starting to try again now.
It's been a very stressful first month of ttc, my hopes are sky high and I'm struggling to face the fact it might take me some time to hold a baby safely in my arms.
I think if I was you I would just dtd every other day, if you're ready to try again that is.
24/10/2013 at 21:23
Oh yeah, both times I got my period about 28/29 days later.
24/10/2013 at 21:24
So sorry your going through this.
I had a MMC and ERPC in march. We planned to wait a cycle and try again after that. I had a longish cycle and after a few weeks in was starting to think about trying that first month so started doing OPKs. I got a positive opk and another and another do by day 3 did a test and was pregnant again. Everything is going well and I'm now 29 weeks.
I did panic a bit but the midwife and consultant told me that there's no medical reason to wait if I felt ready anyway and it was more for ease of dating x
24/10/2013 at 21:35
Thanks everyone, all this is stuff they don't tell you at hospital, they just say everyone's different. Kharv, sorry you're still going through the same, I can't get on Hitched at the mo,so didn't know. I didn't need an EPRC since I had a complete m/c before the scan to check happened. I do, however, have a MRI on Monday to check my fibroids aren't a problem. Meanwhile, we shall dtd regularly until I get a period, then return to trying as normal. At least now the bleeding has stopped we can dtd which is helping us as a couple.
Thanks again for the help, I'm sure there will be more questions in due course, but talking on here is helping lots xx
24/10/2013 at 21:54
Don't worry barefoot - it's not on Hitched at all.
I know exactly what you mean about the bleeding stopping meaning you can draw a line under it. I'm praying it stops soon as it's making me feel rotten.
I think your plan is a good one.
24/10/2013 at 22:19
I have no advice but just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry for all you lovely ladies who have experienced loss, and sending hugs to those in need
25/10/2013 at 09:32
We waited until the bleeding stopped before dtd again. Period arrived 27 days after the ERPC.
Been TTC since! x
25/10/2013 at 12:48
We waited one cycle after the mc as I didn't feel ready. Period came at about 30 days so only a couple of days longer than normal. My cycles were never the same, but didn't go too irregular, longest was probably 35 days. Unfortunately it took a very long time for us to get pregnant again, but I had lots of problems with pain and weird bleeding and I was a mess emotionally, so I think all that contributed to the time it took.
This month I would do as the others have said and just have regular sex, then if your period comes you can go back to temping from there.
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