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21/07/2013 at 13:33
I had this idea that it would be a good idea to have a place where we can go and rant and rave about TTC and all the frustration that comes with it, It can be ranting about a missing AF, your cycles messing you around, or comments from other people! ETC...
I find sometimes that it helps to write it down and I hope you ladies agree!
I am going to start
My MIL is driving me mental, Every time I see her she makes a comment about me and H waiting for a few years before we start to have children!, she does it every single time with out fail!... Even the day after our wedding day!! What really gets to me is that H is the youngest he has a brother and sister, his brother has not long ago had a baby with a "friend" who were just friends and got pregnant very quickly, and his sister has 2 kids with this complete loser. We (Me and H) are the only ones who have done it properly I.e We own our house and are married! Yet we are told to wait!!! Well MIL I am not waiting and neither is your darling son, I can't wait too tell you I am pregnant!
Ahhh that feels much better!
21/07/2013 at 14:45
Great thread! How rude of her to tell you to wait grrr!
My rant: stop asking me everytime you see me if there's 'any news yet....?' - I will bloody well tell you if I'm pregnant again when I want to, stop adding to the pressure I already feel under. (said to the work colleague I don't even know that well but who just happens to know about our last bfp)
21/07/2013 at 15:02
Sorry to hear that CO :( Some people can be so inconsiderate!
21/07/2013 at 15:58
My MIL drove me nuts this weekend too!
Firstly, I should say it has been a lovely weekend. Mr Ducky finally graduated with his PhD (despite finishing it 18 months ago!) and today is our first wedding anniversary. It has been a lovely chilled day and I am being whisked away next weekend to a posh hotel. That is the good bit :-)
But now my venting!
MIL ruined my new kitchen table by unplugging a plug-in air freshener and putting it on the table. It leaked and was left overnight and now the oak has a bleached patch in the middle. It is only 6 weeks old. I was NOT a happy bunny.
Following this, we went for a meal last night and she was going on and on about how hard it is for SIL to go to 'all these appointments' from work. It was like the world was ending for her. She has only had two appointments in the last 4 months, and is about to start clomid. I tried to explain how hard it was for us having been through all those appointments and how we have positively millions to attended for IVF. Well, apparently it is different for us because we aren't solicitors. That is true but is doesn't mean it is any easier to juggle work and appointments for us.
Then she had the utter cheek to say I hope SIL falls pregnant before us because she is older and been married 6 months longer so deserves to be first. Errrrrrrm, but they have only been trying 7 months and we haven't been using contraception for 3 years this year. But I bit my tongue. She is an utter tit. I actually thought seeing SIL struggle to conceive may make her empathise with our situation, but no.
Oh and finally, it isn't fair on SIL that we get 3 goes at IVF on the NHS and she only gets one. That isn't our fault our respective PCTs have different rules. Plus SIL is at the clomid stage, talk about getting carried away talking about IVF.
I'm glad the inlaws have gone home now.
21/07/2013 at 15:59
Inconsiderate *** CO.
21/07/2013 at 16:06
Oh Ducky I am so sorry, I would be so annoyed about my table too! Congratulations to Mr Ducky for graduating!!
I am sorry to hear about your MIL!! I am sure they are sent to try us sometimes!
21/07/2013 at 17:27
Thanks girls x
Oh ducky, first the table then she has the cheek to say those things to you! I'd be fuming. Well done for biting your tongue. And well done mr ducky on graduating, happy anniversary x
21/07/2013 at 19:50
MIL's eh?! Who'd have 'em?! Mine can be a complete nightmare but fortunately she doesn't mention things about babies/pregnancy. I don't think she has a clue are trying again.
I have a lady at work who is driving me mad. She keeps going on about when i'm having #2 and asking me if i'm pregnant if i happen to mention something such as the fact i'm nipping to loo etc! Friend at work who was pregnant at same time as me last time is 16 weeks and it's been way worse since she announced it. When she found out friend was pregnant she seemed upset she hadn't known after asking if i already knew (i did because me and other girl are good friends, her son is my godson) anyway she asked if i'd tell her straight away when i'm pregnant again. Er no, i'll tell you when i tell everyone else!! SHe is our head of department and has also been hassling my pregnant friend about when she's going on mat leave etc....all totally illegal, as is asking me when i'm having another!! Luckily we are on summer holidays now so i can avoid her until september. If she's still harping on when we go back (whether i'm pregnant or not) i'm going to complain higher up because it's really getting on my nerves!!!
21/07/2013 at 20:21
We're visiting family up north (where my partner is from) and his Nana gave us the run down on every baby and infant she knows in a blatant dig at us for not having a baby yet. It's not like I'm not trying FFS and I wanted to punch her in the face and burst into tears but obviously couldn't do either :(
21/07/2013 at 22:26
Ducky - is SIL your MIL's daughter? Sometimes mothers are different to their daughters to their daughter in laws.
I would be annoyed about the table too!
Can't believe you've been married a year - congratulations!
MIL is fine it's the mothership that gets me! She doesn't know we are TTC & she won't. She still thinks OH wants to wait a while after getting married. We are just over a month off getting married & I suspect the questions will start as soon as we return from honeymoon - if not on the day!
I simply don't want the pressure from her - she fell first time with all 4 of her pregnancies so I just know she won't understand not falling straight away.
07/08/2013 at 12:07
I would quite like my body to just be nice to myself for once, Please Please let me ovulate!!!
14/08/2013 at 21:10
Little Bit of an update too my first post about MIL always telling us to wait well tonight he asked her about it and this is what she said:
She still see's him as her baby (He's the youngest) I thought that was the reason! and apparently hes too young... He's nearly 30!!
He also said what would you say if i told you she was pregnant and she said she would be very happy for us... so think its just a bit of drink talking when I see her!
At least I have an answer now!
15/08/2013 at 09:40
We havn't even embarked on TTC yet and the folk at work (they are all blokes mind you!) keep asking when is it my turn. They know nothing of our quest for number two, but If i get this every month from them i am likely to snap.
15/08/2013 at 09:51
Oh vikster some people can be so annoying :( I think people just think you have sex then your pregnant and don't realise some people struggle! Grr to your blokes at work!
15/08/2013 at 11:26
It amazes me how many people are happy to comment when so many people do sadly struggle to conceive. We have had the comments and even been asked outright when are we having a baby ever since we got married 2 years ago! Luckily we haven't been trying so the comments, as much as they annoy me, don't actually upset me at the moment. I don't want to tell people we are now ttc but sometimes it's hard to know what to say when asked!
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