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16/09/2013 at 08:37
Morning! I'm starting this weeks thread with a completely OTT / delirious story... I did an IC test this morning, BFN (again!). But I completely imagined a very very very very faint line.... I don't even know how, the stick is COMPLETELY blank! All I can think is I must have picked up a bit of fluff or something with it and the shadow made it look like there might be something there. It only lasted a few seconds but boy did those seconds feel long! I immediately turned on the light and picked up my phone to take a photo thinking there was no way it could be what I was thinking it was.... as soon as the light came on I realised how stupid I had been.... so not only am I symptom spotting now, I'm also making up fake lines! Dear god, help me!
16/09/2013 at 08:53
Oh Mrs A this TTC malarky does the funniest of things to u. Im only on cycle 2 & my symptom spotting is ridiculous, i even imagine symptoms right after AF when theres clearly no chance im pregnant! So ur not alone in thr crazyness xx
Im CD 14 today (usual 32 day cycles) so hoping i ovulate this week! Got back from honeymoon on Fri, buy thankfully not back to work til thurs!
16/09/2013 at 09:24
Mrs A, I think you are suffering from test delirium! Lets keep hoping a line does appear soon x
Cooper just a bit jealous of you being off work, fingers crossed you catch the egg this week!!!
AFM, AF is due today by lunchtime hopefully. I feel very nauseous this morning which is of course messing with my mind but I think its more to do with a cold I'm getting. I can feel very dull AF type pains so shes on her way :-(
16/09/2013 at 09:33
Morning all. Im not being rude and not joining in, but we are out this month without even getting a go. Our donor isnt available for this month so we are on to October. Wish all those in the 2WW lots of luck. Be back next month to chat :-)
16/09/2013 at 10:15
Sorry to hear it, Vikster, that's rubbish!
Dolly, I hope AF does NOT show up today at lucnhtime.
Cooper, here's hoping you ov before you have to go back to work ;)
Mrs_A, we all get delusional sometimes when TTC!
AFM, 5dpo, thankfully still thinking rationally and knowing there's no possible symptoms until at least implantation, which shouldn't be for a while yet. Also, still giving the [hopefully] fertilised egg pep talks to get it there and firmly implanted in the lining. Also, I'm handing in my resignation at work today as Ant and I will be moving to Paris in a few weeks (!!) and thinking how amazing it will be to be pregnant in Paris, living a life of leisure with the dog. Of course, this is also coming with needing to get our flat ready to sell THIS week so we can get it on the market ASAP, then it will mean me house hunting in the SE London/Kent area FROM Paris in the new year. Exciting, yes, but hectic times coming up, mais je suis impatient d'y être!
16/09/2013 at 10:20
Morning! Hope everyone had a good weekend.
Mrs_A - Sorry it was a bfn, hopefully your next test will be a real line!
Cooper - Hope you had a good honeymoon, where did you go?
DollyP - Fingers crossed for you!
Vikster - Sorry to hear you are out this month
AFM, I think I had some EWCM on Friday but as H has been ill and now I've got a nasty cold we only managed to dtd once over the weekend :-( not sure that will be enough.
16/09/2013 at 10:28
Missed you there wispa! Paris sounds amazing very exciting! Will you be working out there? Fingers crossed for your bfp before you go! x
16/09/2013 at 10:37
Mrs_A - aw, I hate testing. I'll hold it at every angle to see if i can see a line. If i ever do see one in the future I'm immediately showing my OH for clarification as my eyes can probably spot a faint line from 100 yards now.
Dolly - Fingers crossed AF is a no show... without making symptom spotting worse everyone who does get their BFP always says it feels the same as AF at the start.
Vikster - Sorry to hear about that, but fingers crossed for a June baby next month.
Cooper - Very jealous of your time off. I used up all my holiday pre wedding and for wedding so we're honeymooning next year.
Wispa - Thats all very exciting! I still live in the town i was born in, haha. So not adventurous.
AFM - supposedly 4DPO today. If that positive OPK i posted last week was anything to go by. My temps havent reflected ovulation though, which worries me. but i have been ill so my temps could be abit off. I've also had dull mild cramps since the day before ovulation but again that could be because I was sick. Who knows.
16/09/2013 at 10:44
Cooper - Hope you had a lovely honeymoon? Where did you go? FX for ov this week!
DollyP - I'm still keeping my FX she stays away. Keep us posted, please.
Vikster - Rubbish :( October will be here before you know it though.
Wispa - How exciting, will you be an actual lady of leisure? Wow. I'd love to be one of them!
Lulu - FX it was enough, I can't see why it wouldn't have been, no-one ever comments on how much they DTD when they get their BFP. I think it varies and its all pot luck!
Wishful - You remind me of me so much. Its horrible isn't it, not knowing if you have or haven't, when or if, etc.
16/09/2013 at 10:46
CD8 here, first month of not taking the pill and dtd last night. H is now convinced I am pregnant.. (could get tedious if he thinks I am every time we dtd...)
16/09/2013 at 10:54
Well, I'm Canadian, and although I'm allowed to work in the UK being married to a Brit and all, I don't think I'm allowed to work in France. Lady of leisure it is, then! At least for 6 months. Luckily our living costs will be paid for by Ant's work, including an allowance for food, and not having to pay for petrol and dog walking will mean we won't be much worse off.
Lulu, it only takes once!
16/09/2013 at 12:10
Nutella - Oh gosh!! Have you given H the lesson on the cycle and how it works? I find it fascinating how many people don't realise, not that I knew before I looked into it!
Wispa - oh wow, 6 months off sounds like HEAVEN!
I'm totally feeling a bit sick. I don't know whats in my head or not anymore though. I am on tablets which make you feel sick - so don't know if its just those and I'm paying more attention to it than normal. I think my non-existent line this morning is going to make me even more gutted when AF shows isn't it?
16/09/2013 at 12:43
Happy Monday everyone!
MrsA - proof if ever it were needed that TTC makes us crazy. Hope a real BFP turns up soon!
Cooper, where did you go for your honeymoon?
DollyP - fx AF stays away. Keep us updated!
Vix, boo to being out this month, roll on Oct.
Wispa - Paris sounds vay exciting!
Lulu - once is plenty as long as it's timed right!
WW - hmm, hopefully you did ov and it's just illness throwing the temping off. Are you carring on with OPks or assuming you've ovd this month?
Nuts, lol at the husband's naivete!
I'm 6dpo (with the normal caveat of if I actually did ov ) and trying but failing to not overthink everything. I have had a headache and a dodgy tummy the last couple of days, and I that was my first symptom last time I was pregnant, so I've totally convinced myself that I am this month. H had a headache and sickness virus a couple of days ago though, so it's far far more likely that I have it too, but rationality doesn't always apply when TTC, and I think I'm going to be very disappointed if I turn out not to be pregnant.
16/09/2013 at 12:59
Wispa - That does sound amazing. Did you plan to take a long period of time off once you have a baby anyway?
Nutella - typical male logic. when I thought i had missed my period before my H told me "wells that expected because you have a cold at the moment" and i had to explain that we dont stop having periods just because our noses are filled with snot.
Mrs_A - Its horrible isnt it? all I'm trying to think is after halloween and bonfire night (big deal in my town) I can go to the docs and say "its been nine months, sort me out".
Spikey - we're roughly the same place in our cycle so i know once you start testing its socially acceptable for me to follow 2 days later haha. I did take an opk for funsies on Saturday and it was blank so i've got everything crossed it was ov. In a way you're lucky to be TTC your second cos it should give you a little more of a heads up to know what it felt like before when you were pregnant but I imagine its also just as frustrating for the same reason if you feel the same but AF shows up. I was wondering as well, have you put a little pressure on yourself because you want a certain age gap between the two? I imagine that'll be the issue with #2 for me. whilst trying for #1 the main worry is "can i ever have kids" i imagine the age gap will be my worry for #2.
Whilst on the topic with Wispa, as a general question for all - What are your plans as far as work and baby are concerned?
For me, I've always wanted to be off until they're 2/3 and then go part time whilst at nursery and part time whilst at school so i can do drop offs and pick ups. H and I went through a custody battle which ended in January this year for my step daughter which set us back about 15K. We're done paying for it in Octobers pay (hurrah) and then we're paying for disneyworld for next August which needs to be paid by April so we're kind of used to essentially living without my salary as its currently all absorbed in those two items so i feel we should be alright to do it how i hope but obviously things might crop up and change but thats the plan for now.
16/09/2013 at 13:10
Spikey - FX you are. When is the earliest that you will test?
Wishful - October isn't too long to wait. Have they told you what the next steps will be yet? Ours are straight to Fertility Clinic - where they will repeat the same tests, and probably prescribe Clomid. I have the same feeling as you re 'can I ever have kids' - which is why I don't know how I am getting so carried away this 2WW. I think its the shorter cycle, its sent me off into fantasy land!
Good idea to bring up some other discussions Wishful! I love talking anything TTC related, which technically this is, lol. I intend to take around 7 months ML, 6 months will be ML and the remaining 4 weeks will be 2 weeks leave either side. Financially this makes the most sense, as I'll get normal pay, but if I take any longer I only get SMP for the whole time. I figure if I was intending to come back full time then maybe I'd take 9 months and deal with SMP, but thats not my intention so it makes more sense to come back, be paid for ML, and just reduce my hours and take the financial hit that way. So I'll go back and ideally cut my hours, in a realistic world probably by 50% but it may have to be less than that depending on childcare. Also, I should think I'll need to consider what my work will agree to and tailor my proposition around that... a 50% cut would mean a job share and I'm not sure my job is suitable for that?
16/09/2013 at 13:30
I'm still waiting for AF, she is now officially 1 hour late!! Which I know is daft but she normally shows by lunchtime. I'm getting dull periody aches though so am sure she's on her way. I feel like I'm coming down with something, weak and coldy which maybe delaying her who knows! I'm 100% shes en route though.
Vikster, sorry you're out for this month, roll on next for you
Wispa, well done for staying rational in the 2ww, sounds like you have an amazing time coming up though and lots to occupy your mind.
Spikey, fingers crossed for you that you are spotting all the right symptoms
Wishful, I hope you 2ww goes quickly
Nutella, blokes always assume they have super sperm and it'll just happen don't they!
If we are lucky enough to fall pregnant, I would like to take a full year off. My company only pay the statutory minimum when it comes to mat pay so things will be tight but I want to take as long as possible.
16/09/2013 at 13:37
Dolly, when will you test should she not show.....
16/09/2013 at 13:46
Not until tomorrow morning at the earliest, but the pains are ramping up :-(
16/09/2013 at 13:50
I'm too late for personals sorry but hope you all had a gret weekend. Just sw Monnie's BFP so thrilled for her.
I got a BFN on Saturday - I wanted to know as I was going to a party and wanted to drink! Right now I'm hours away from AF showing up - very crampy etc so this month was a no-go. Oh well, I was'nt really expecting the 1st month to work again :)
Hurry up AF so I can move on to CD1 again :)
Hugs to everyone - xxx
16/09/2013 at 13:53
Sue FX she shows soon so you can try again! :)
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