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17/02/2015 at 11:49
Where is everyone?
I have nothing to add to today but wanted to check everyone is olay ?
17/02/2015 at 12:00
All good with me. Just waiting for repeat blood results and letter from clinic. All seems to have gone very quiet since GP said she will refer us.
17/02/2015 at 12:56
I'm here but incredibly busy at work.
Just to answer yesterday's questions about my mum and sister:
I have a weird relationship with them. I had a mixed childhood which I won't go into but after my parents splitting and the fact I found out by accident has left me very confused about how I feel about the lot of them. They're staying in a hotel and not with me, but I am so angry that they booked the tickets without telling me. I want to tell my mum that she is smothering me but I haven't worked out what I will say to her yet. I want to make her understand that she can't just book tickets without telling me as she's invading my personal space. If I hadn't have texted her to see if she was planning to come (and to be honest I was praying the answer was no) then I would never have found out until, probably, she turned up on the doorstep. I've let her know how angry I am with her and my dad (who I still haven't heard from) and instead of accepting that she's been a bit of a ***, she is playing a victim card i.e. "I'm just trying to keep everyone happy at the same time" which is a line I'm not biting as she has done this since I was a kid and I have had enough of it now. I know we only get one mum and I'm not about to cut her out but she really needs to start respecting my space and the fact I'm an adult. She needs to do similar with my sister by encouraging her to move out and stand on her own two legs instead of her hiding behind mum's apron strings. My sister is 33 in June and has never lived even in a houseshare. There are so many home truths I want to tell them but I don't know how to approach. All I know is that I don't look forward to them coming over. Ever. I've pretended to be happy to see them in the past but because I end up babysitting them (my mum is the type of person who says "I don't mind" when you ask what they want to do and my sister doesn't say anything, but just clings to my mum like a five year old. My mum knows about the fertility treatment already but what I want to tell her are the home truths, not anything to do with the fertility. Don't think I made that clear yesterday.
Sorry for the rant - have ranted about it so many times in different mediums but am still not quite sure what to do!
TTC wise I am 6DPIUI and trying desperately not to symptom spot! Had a small cramp lower down on the right earlier but I'm putting that down to AF coming as it's less than a week now.
17/02/2015 at 13:44
Well I'm cd1 again. I'm thinking of just giving up and taking a break from ttc'ing for a bit. X
17/02/2015 at 13:57
Sorry I haven't been around today - mad busy at work & just back from gym now.
CC - hello lovely x
hopeful - When do you expect to get the results of the repeat bloods? What will the next steps be for you?
Enjayee - Oh I really hope you're wrong about the cramping; keep the faith. I'm sorry for all that's going on with your family - you really don't need it right now - I hope you can make them see they need to change their ways towards you. My H had something similar with his mum & sister and it's still not sorted so I have an idea of how you feel xx
Luna - I'm really sorry to hear this; I'd urge you not to take a break; it will happen, I promise. It did before and it will again.
AFM - Had a great spinning session at the gym - love those ones where you feel exhausted but great at the same time! TTC wise, heading for the good bit at CD7.
17/02/2015 at 14:28
Hopeful - Hope you get the results soon!
Enjayee - Fingers crossed
Luna - I am on a step back from TTC totally arm but its made us closer again we DTD when we want to not just because I am ovulating. I haven't temped for ages only using FF to keep track ofl my cycles. I think its incredible hard to step away completly but maybe stop doing temping/opks etc and just DTD because you want to and see how you get on :) big hugs!
Tayto - Ah bet that felt good!
Yay to the fun bit :)
17/02/2015 at 16:51
Thinking of you Enjayee. Try not to stress out too much regarding mum/sister situation. As they didn't actually inform you they were coming earlier you could say you are busy certain days to minimise time you spend with them.
Luna- ttc is stressful at the best of times. I wouldn't give up all together but maybe as cc suggested take a small step back and just track your cycle and dtd when you want to as opposed to "have to" as you are ovulating.
Hello Tayto and CC
NEED to phone surgery to get results.
17/02/2015 at 20:07
Enjayee, so sorry you had such a tough time with your parents. Don't let your mum bait you, it sounds like she's trying to play the martyr card :( Also I hope you're wrong about the cramping. Got everything crossed for you!
Luna, sorry you're feeling so down about it all. DTD when you want to rather than have to might help? big hugs.
AFM: Had quite a busy day at work so i'm over tired and fed up and feeling a bit anxious today. Making me worry about TTC now as well. CD18, no ovulation yet. Thought I might be coming towards it as was quite warm in the night last night. Also had some right ovary pain this morning, but could be just a cyst :( Anyway, started taking folic acid and multivitamin this evening. If you shake me i'll rattle I think!
17/02/2015 at 20:08
Also just to answer Lottie's Q from yesterday, No i don't track my cycles really. No temping etc, but I do record CD1. Mostly so I can keep the Dr up to date with my cycle lengths.
17/02/2015 at 21:28
CC - Hello :-) I am never on here until the evening as I am too scared to look at work! How are things with you?
Hopeful - I hope that you get your results soon so that you can crack on with things.
Enjayee - Huge hugs to you. It sounds like a really difficult situation. I avoid confrontation so I have absolutely no advice to give but I hope that you can find a way to get your message across without stressing yourself out. I hope that your cramp was implantation pain! I had this with two of my pregnancies (kind of a twingey period pain type feeling) so I am keeping everything crossed for you X
Luna - Sorry that AF showed up. I agree with everyone else - it might be an idea to take the NTNP approach for a bit to see if you find it less stressful. Huge hugs to you too X
Tayto - Glad that you enjoyed your spinning class. Even watching it tires me out! Enjoy the fun bit ahead :-)
Irrelephant - Sorry that you are feeling anxious. I hope that you can get a good night's sleep tonight. I feel as though I am rattling too with the supplements that I am taking! Before I started using a CBFM I only tracked cycle lengths too as it's all useful info for yourself and the doctor.
AFM - CD15 today so the 2WW begins!
17/02/2015 at 21:40
Evening all x
Enjayee - Sorry I misunderstood yesterday, in the case of home truths then I would like to think I would get it all out. It may be hard but if worse case senario you fall out by time baby comes hopefully you will have resolved it all by talking. Doesn't always work like that but hopefully it will all fall in to place for you x
Hopeful2015 - When will you get the results? Fingers crossed for you x
Luna_12 - I want to say maybe take a 'break' but not actually but that never works does it! Do what you feel is right for you guys but sending you big hugs x
Irrelephant - Getting to know your body is always fun in the first few cycles. It is amazing what you notice!
AFM - Still no idea what is going on! Been for a swim tonight, was a bit busy so spent 15 minutes in the sauna before hand, looking forward to getting in more of an exercise routine, especially as it is free.
*Lottie* , in reply to yesterday nothing much yet. We have tickets for Shrek in August and my sister has given us tickets for Micheal Mcintyre in October as she has got use of works box now for her wedding anniversary. But other than that we know when we want to go away just where and what now.
17/02/2015 at 22:28
Thanks gang. It's really getting me down tbh. I can't handle the stress of it anymore and if one more person asks me when I'm having number two I may scream x
17/02/2015 at 23:11
So I phoned surgery. Results are in but doctor needs to review them so told to phone back tomorrow after two.
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