I have three children, the youngest is 13 months.  My husband and I thought what the hek let's have another.  I'm pretty sure everything that needed to be done was done at the right time of the month (around a week ago) and now I'm having regrets.  I'm so stupid, I'm thinking how can we possibly afford more child care?!  It's too soon after my youngest, it's not fair on him.........I'll have to pack in my job..............I'll go stir crazy if I decide we'll be better off if I'm a stay-at-home-mum.   Well it may be too late now, I don't know if it's too early to tell, as I didn't feel anything this early with my other three, maybe it's all in my mind, but my bust feels odd, I usually enjoy a crafty cigarette in the evening after kids gone bed with glass of wine but past few days it makes me feel sick, I'm quite emotional and confused too.....I couldn't have an abortion not after my other three lovely kids......I'm not due for about a week and a half..........it's going to be a long week and a half!

Hi,

Don't panic!  

Nothing is set in stone yet so take a deep breath.

If you are pregnant and it is an if, you will work it out.  You know this deep down I'm sure from when you have had your other babies.  Your youngest would be at least 2 and maybe it isn't ideal but its older than a lot of babies are.  Plus he/she has been born into a family already with brothers and sisters so I'm guessing its not the same adjustment as if he/she had you all to themselves from the start.

In your shoes I would wait and see.  If you are pregnant it might reassure you to look at your finances and budget in the governemnt funded nursery hours and child benefit etc.  It might surprise you.

Most importantly I think you do want another baby - it sounds like it is outside influences that are making you doubt. 

Aah thank you, you're right I think I do it's just every now and then I get doubts...it was actually my mum telling me it's too soon, I'd be too tired and my youngest Elliot would miss out, so you were right there aswell.  I'm due this weekend, I've been feeling very dizzy and light headed last 4/5 days and a little sick on and off.  My chest isn't too bad, a little sensitive.  I found a bit of something in the bathroom today and thought it was AF and felt disappointed but then realised actually it was tiny and could have been implantation, nothing since either.  So was quite excited today, now it's evening time and I'm feeling absolutely shattered I'm feeling negative about it all again