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12/09/2013 at 19:32
Hey all, I'll get to the point.
I miscarried our first baby these last 2 weeks, found out at 7 weeks that our baby died at 5-6 weeks. I'm devastated!! My miscarriage has been text book, about as well as one can go. I really wanted it to go straight forward and without any medical help so I'm pleased in that regard. We had our follow up scan today and the nurse has said everything is fine, my body has done its job in that respect. I really want to start trying again, now!! Well in a week or so. The nurse said to wait till my next period so dating is easier. The only thing is I've had no end of problems with my periods this year. I'm afraid that it could be months till I see a period, I can't wait months to get pregnant again. Because my fiance has heard this from the nurses mouth he's now saying we should wait, I've told him it could be months tho, he said it'll be my body adjusting then!! He's scared of miscarrying again, my body going through it again.. I've spoke to my doctor and explained my concerns, he said if we feel ready we can start trying again when we want, it hasn't been proven if getting pregnant straight after a miscarriage puts you in any more danger of miscarrying or not misscarrying.
I just think I need people to give me there opinion. Or a success story. Has any of you miscarried then got pregnant straight away, before a period and had a lovely bouncing baby 9 months later??? Help....
12/09/2013 at 19:45
Im so sorry to hear what you are going through. How you doing? Its a really awful time. I had a miscarriage in May at 7 weeks and was v upset as it was my first pregnancy also.(doubt its any easier to understand even if youve got kids). I didnt have a period until 6 weeks after however we did carry on trying during this time. The nurse in the clinic did explain to me that you can concieve after a miscarriage but she advised against because your womb and utereus needs time to thicken up ready for a new implantation and this takes a while!!!
Since my miscarriage Ive had one period since and my next one is due tomorrow i think!!!! Its hard to stay positive, and I hope it doesnt arrive at all because like you i want to be a mum. Thinking of youxx
12/09/2013 at 20:58
Hi @babybump17, I'm doing OK.. Well as OK as I can do. How did you cope??
See our doc said it's down to how we feel, if we feel ready then to go for it. But obviously he can't gauntee we won't go on to have another miscarriage as unfortunately the stats are against us really (the whole 1 in 5 miscarry). So as he said the human body is too complicated to predict but it isn't proven or not proven if conceiving before your next period after a miscarriage is dangerous.
My periods were so all over the place this year since march, I mean I went 5 weeks past one period. Then I went through a couple of months where my body decided I'd have a week where I didn't bleed then bleed for 9-11 days (tmi, sorry). It was horrible, I finally had my first normal cycle and got pregnant. So I really don't know when I could get a period, it could be months. I can't wait months!!!! I'm just lost what to do, what's best for me and what's best for baby.
So you should be getting your gift from good old mother nature tomorrow then?? You hoping this month is your month?? X x
13/09/2013 at 09:39
Hiya Wannabmum how you today? Its difficult to say how you cope to be honest I was v low for about 6 weeks and still have the odd day of why us? Lifes just cruel. I felt like I failed at the time and that my body let me down, but i just think that with time you just accept whats happened and concentrate on getting preg again. I will never forget what could of been, but I just want a baby asap feel so ready now.
Yep think period is due today, i hope i dont see it to be honest. We went on hols 2 weeks ago and were at it like rabbits... to be honest I will be disappointed if im not pg because we couldnt of tried any more.
Lifes not fair... we will get therexx
13/09/2013 at 11:58
13/09/2013 at 12:03
Hiya Nicole keep us updated...baby dust all roundxx
13/09/2013 at 14:06
I think the more you think positive the better chance you have. With everything my body has been deciding to do this year I was feeling really down and really didn't think it would happen for us, I made myself snap out of it. I made myself think as positive as I possibly could and that month is the month I got pregnant. I'm sure that's why it hit me so hard as well though when I started to miscarry!! I've done everything right, been careful, not let myself get stressed, eaten right as I always do anyway and cut out the cheeses etc that you shouldn't eat, took the vits and folic acid for months n months. So i was really upset when I miscarried cos we had done everything right.... These girls who get pregnant by mistake and do everything wrong and yet still successfully carry a baby and have a nice healthy baby at the end must have something in their water... Just think as positive as you can and its easier said than done but don't stress about getting pregnant. For months we were at it like rabbits around my ovulation time, the one month that we chilled out about it and had sex the day before and day after but not on the day of ovulation (we were too knackred that night haha) is the month we got preg. Going at it isn't always the best way. Make the most of being able to have so much sex and enjoy it, cos I'm sure once babies are here (cos it will eventually happen) we won't be having anywhere near as much sexy time for a long time. Lol. Good luck and please keep me updated, my fingers are crossed for you both x x x
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