Hi,

I am just wondering what was the final straw in making everyone decide to ttc?

I know we often have barriers and sometimes they are self imposed.  So was there anything that suddenly changed for you?

We are weighing up ttc no.2 but I can't really remember how we decided to ttc no.1! I think it didn't feel the 'perfect time' but we just decided enough of the reasons not to were surmountable and maybe not really reasons at all.

I wonder if it ever feels 'right'.  perhaps its more that it doesn't feel wrong or stupid/risky anymore??

Also were you all on the same page with your partners or did you have a difference in opinion?

We are in this position at the mo , our dd is 3 and we are always debating a second!! It is harder now as we actually know what it is all about!! Hubby & I do have a difference of opinion as i don't think you are ever actually 100% 'ready' where as he seems to think we would know if we are. xx

We have decided to TTC our first child...although I don't feel 100% ready, I don't think I ever will as there will always be reasons to put it off.  We have decided to just see what happens now I've come off the pill rather than to actively try.  

I've been broody for a while but I think the turning point for my hubby was his 29th birthday as we've always said we'd like to be youngish parents.

Good luck in your journey xx

I didn't feel 100% ready first time but decided I prob never would. We decided now is a good time to ttc no 2 as dd starts school in sept and I've been broody for ages. Seeing her grow up, she really aint a baby no more so time for another! X

Thanks ladies. 

what you say really rings a bell. 

Spoke to a friend today who also pointed out that life an still throw wobblers at you such as illness and sad news and that mid these unpredictable things were to happen or change that it might delay things and then you'd never get around to itho

I think that puts things into perspective for me. You spend ages thinking why you shouldn't now and don't think about why now could be a better time than in a yeat or two when something may take the decision from you. I don't know say a redundancy, death in the family or a hundred other things. 

I guess it shows now could be the isn't time after all x

good luck ttc xx

I can agree with you on that. Had a bad smear and an op last jan, wanted another baby but said we wouldn't risk my health and would start this jan when I had been given 12 month all clear. As I was due to come off the pill I got put at risk of redundancy. Held off for 3 more weeks then thought f**k it I'm not putting my life on hold for them. Went out and got a 2nd job, found out on may 13th I'm bring made redundant on July 4th, got my bfp 2 weeks later and couldn't be happier x