Hi first time I have started a thread so here goes;
Why do people think they have the right to make negative comments on the fact I have three boys ?
I have the usual what did you have question,when I say a boy I get "oh, what a shame", "Nevermind" "Are you going to try again for a girl"
It makes me so mad . He is not a shame,he is not second choice to a girl. He is my precious baby boy - so thank you keep your comments to yourself.
Sorry for the rant x
Rant away,we like a good rant.
A baby is a baby,we love them all.I've lost count of the times I've been asked if I'm going to keep going till I even the score.After Arthur it was two all,so to speak and comments would be ah,that's nice two of each,you don't need to have any more.RUDE!Now,for me,comments tend to be even more ignorant,generally patronising,and frequently crude.
Such comments say much about the person that made them and don't tend to show them in a very good light.I believe if you don't have something positive or at the very least sensible to say,why feel the need to say at all.
If they're purple with green stripes,we love them all the same ,boy or girl.Every one is special.
we are undecided as to have more but everyone said oh i bet your pleased its a girl, you have one of each, perfect no need for more hey, well yes thats nice, But if we could afford it and andrew had a reliable job id love 4, BUT id so loved jack to have a brother so close in age, but yes i wanted a girl but either way i didnt care jack would have loved a brother, oh i dont know im rambling,
When i was pregnant with jack i went to ONE scan alone, one out of 8, and was asked by a smug granny who was there with her considerably older daughter what i was having, i said a boy, she replied, oh what a shame, WHAT???, well its far easier on your own with the same sex, youd find youd relate more, cue very hormonal me dragging my midwife over to point out daddy was at work earning money for our child, i was FUMING!
AND wtf is with guess the sex complete strangers (usually of the blue rinse club) Oh its a boy i can TELL!!! well he looks lovely in pink and we called him lola! hehe and then saying your a bit young for two arent you, well yes probably but theyre very loved, provided for and they have no different life to children with an older mum!
I also had the sad cow next door to my mum telling people lola WAS a boy and i was lying to upset her as shed got stuck with a boy when she wanted a girl i mean WTF, why is it you get pregnant and that automatically gives the world a chance to be bloody rude!
hey girlies to right about the ranting! we decided to find out what sex charlie was when i was pregnant and when we told people we were expecting a boy (even my own mother, who i don't speak to anymore-but thats a completely different story lol) said oh ok thats a shame tho wouldn't you prefer a girl. i mean OMG where do they get off saying things like that, some people can't even have children and would give anything to be blessed with the beautiful children that we have.
i love charlie with my life heart and soul and wouldn't change him for the world, he was born happy and healthy and thats the most important. boys are GORGEOUS, HANDSOME and above all they love their mummy's VERY VERY MUCH.
We have all been blessed with beautiful children and people who make these comments are jelouse selfish and heartless
there we go thats my rant over to x x
Thanks girls I seem to have set everybody off. But why do people think they can make comments about other peoples children.
My sister has two girls - the youngest of which she is always being asked is it a boy or a girl even though she is in a pink dress and is called Felicity.
People also don't have a right to comment on your age Laura, my sister was 19 when she had her eldest and she is one of the best mums I know, if things had worked out how we had planned them our children would have been born when i was in my early 20's as it was I was 26 when i had Fin and 32 when Noah was born . Does that mean I am a better mum now than I would have ten years ago I dont think so I'm just older.
Sorry I've started again.
I had a grumpy old man muttering at me in the High Street a few years ago,something about all these teenage Mums with all these kids and I had just three then.What he didn't know was he'd made my day as I'd not long turned thirty and was feeling a bit old.
I had a lady recently sat next to us,again in the high street where I'd had to stop and feed Merlin.Told me first I had lovely children(they were being good for a change in public)then that I didn't look old enough to have 4 children.When she heard about the other three at school she was so excited she called her husband over.Embarassing,even if it was nice comments for a change.Beats"Ain't ya got a telly,Love!"
I don't think I am any better a Mum now I'm older.I'm probably more relaxed.Definately more confident.Probably more tired.
Oh Clair it is awful when people assume you want 1 of each or indeed to comment on the sex of any child is plain rude.
I'm always telling mums at playgroup I'd love another-they always reply-'you want to try for a girl then?'
No I f*****g well don't,I want another baby END OF!!!!!!!!! Stupid people! Mine are fairly close in age,and 1 guy said to me in supermarket(because I let him go in front of me as he had 2 items I had more than trolley full) You're too obliging love,pointed at lads and said that's why these two are so close!!! Cheeky prick. I did answer back,he blushed I smirked enough said!!!!!
That is reserved for the lazy arses who abuse parking spaces.
Cheek I can cope with,parking space abuse-no more miss nice mummabear-then claws are out!!!!!
Baguette to the chin then I reckon!!!!! Haven't had that in a while-maybe my reputation preceeds me!!!!!!! Ha Ha GOOD!!!
I agree with everything you said, Age is not important, some older mums are less responsible than young mums. My sister was 19 when she had Jack and she was an amazing mum. She has just had her 2nd in her 30s and is still a great mum but is far more tired this time around. As long as you are fit and healthy and do the best for your baby age is of no matter (obviously not the extreme like 13 or 60!!)
With regards to the babies sex I had to find out if harry was a boy or a girl as my mum did my head in wanting to know but I didnt mind, she now has three grandsons. I hate it when people are really disappointed to find out they are having a boy or a girl - i know one girl that was most upset when she found out it was a boy! Its even more annoying when other people think you should be dissapointed because you are having a child of the same sex, my best friends have 2boys and they would be more than happy with another boy, i would be happy witha boy or girl no matter liek you say as long as they are healthy and strong
Not sure what it is with other people have to poke their nose in....so damn annoying. Mummabear cant beleive the man in the shop, if that was my sister she may have hit him one!!!
congratulations on your 3rd boy bump! only a few weeks now, how exciting! I was 17 when my sister was born, i was soo excited! And loved spending time with her and spoiling her rotten, and even though shes only 4 shes a brilliant little aunty! lol, i also have a younger brother who is 14mnths old!
Im laura mum to jack 26mnths and lola 10mnths, look forward to seeing you around the forum xxxx
Hi,Sammy.Congratulations on your pregnancy.Hope everything goes well for you.
I don't think I'd have had a polite answer for the guy in the shop Mummabear.Clobber him,tempting.I'm sure you put him in his place.Most times I find myself being too polite to people like that then afterwards thinking I wish I said what I really thought cos I don't want to create a scene.
Oh Jo,I'm sure you've guessed by now I quite like a scene!!!!
Welcome Sammy,I'm not mad-just stupid I'm Rach,mum to Tom and Joseff I'd be made up with another boy-like you. Oh live in babysitters-lucky you!!!!!!!!! Hope last few weeks go smoothly or you hun
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