its pretty impossible to attend to your child imeadiatly every single time, even the first one, i mean, you could be in the bath or on the loo,
i didnt have to leave jack to cry, he was an extremely content baby, now hes a toddler, its another story, and some nights tantrums last several hours, i leave him, i know he is safe, and if me or roo are with him he lashes out, when left alone he lays in bed screams it out and is fine in minutes, i have a video monitor and watch his every move from outside the door.
lola on the other hand, was an extremely needy baby, and at 16mnths had never ever slept in a cot or a room alone, so we did tough love, first night she cried for 10minutes with me going in every 2mins to pat her and say, sleep now, second night she went to bed like a lamb,
id rather not do it, i cry more than them, but i waited until they were talking age and it worked
