Research shows youngsters need daily tasks to encourage them to be responsible
Grandparents would say chores never did them any harm, and it seems opinion is swinging back in favour of dishing them out for youngsters once again.New research says today’s children need to be given daily tasks to encourage them to be more responsible. Parents are reluctant to set youngsters too many jobs and instead give them only trivial duties, such as tidying up toys.Researchers looked at articles in parenting magazines published between 1920 and 2006. They found that until the 1980s, readers agreed that chores helped children develop a positive regard for others and prevented boredom. Markella Rutherford, who led the study at Wellesley College in Massachusetts, said, “One mother’s letter describes how she taught her four-year-old to lay kindling and strike a match to start a fire.”The research found that children are now given less tricky tasks, and are often bribed with pocket money to help out around the house. A British survey recently found that children earn about £700 million a year running errands for parents.Jeremy Todd, from Parentline Plus, said, “Giving children their own must-do chores is great for self-discipline and building their confidence.”Do you think it’s a good idea to give children regular chores? Let us know below….
i think jack already has chores really, he has to put his blanket back on his bed and his taggie comforter on his pillow and tidy any toys, then after breakfast/lunch etc he takes his plate to the kitchen and puts it in the sink, he puts his coat shoes etc in the hall, in a pile on the floor but hes 2 he cant do much more than that! He also wipes his mat or highchair tray, he always gives himself a clap when hes finished!
My cousins are 9 and 5 and they dont lift a finger, when getting changed tod they managed to spread there uniform and shoes all over the room, and then emptied a whole box looking for something, when asked to tidy, WHY, whhhhy? and then just didnt do it! i was disgusted!
We go through stages of being really goodabout this but on the whole I find it easier and quicker to do most things myself.My older kids make their beds,they fold the clothesthey take off if they're being worn again.They're supposed to put their dirty clothes in the wash basket but that doesn't happen most of the time.
With a large family and older kids among those it would be easy to get the older ones doing stuff for the younger ones,which is what happened with me and my siblings,and the same my Mum and her siblings,but I don't want that for my kids,so make a big effort to avoid it.Sometime I might ask an older one to help a little one with shoes or something similar if we're in a hurry,but I don't want to make a habit of it.
We sometimes use chores as a part of discipline.Harry's such a Kevin sometimes he's lost all his TV,XBox,computer,whatever priveleges and he's basically nothing to do,so I get him to earn something back by doing chores.Everyone's a winner,I get some help,he gets a reward.
Should put all these kids to work but paying them for it's too expensive,tried that one.I do think they ought to be doing something for themselves as a way of learning life skills and responsibility for themself
When mine are older they will definately be given chores to do. Ian was 34 when he left home,and had done jack shit round his mums house. DO NOT want my lads like that.
Even now Tom put his shoes away helps lay the table and most certainly tidies his toys. I agree with Jo about getting children to help with younger siblings-I sometimes think it isn't fair-after all they are still kids themselves. But on the whole mine will be pitching in and they won't be paid for it either!
i feel bad now
im always asking jack to fetch lolas dummy or hand her her cup and open it etc, he takes her shoes and coat off too!
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