Building a strong connection with your new baby can take time, but the results will be well worth the wait
Meeting your newborn for the first time after nine months of anticipation can be overwhelming for any new mum. Even if your labour was relatively smooth and straightforward, it’s perfectly normal to take some time to adjust to your little one’s arrival.
The bonding process, which can happen within days or even minutes of birth, is the intense attachment you develop with your baby. It makes you want to shower him with love and is the driving force behind your ability to spring out of bed at night and cater to his demands.
Remember, too, that you have to take care of yourself to bond successfully. Babies need to be in a quiet and alert state to bond, and so do you. As hard as it may be, it’s essential for you to enjoy some me-time in order for attachment and a strong connection to occur.
And don’t worry, you’ll soon be head over heels and more starry-eyed about your little one than you ever thought possible.
If, after a few weeks, you don’t feel more attached to or comfortable with your baby than you did on the first day, or if you feel detached from him, resentful or overly anxious about him, talk to your GP or health visitor. Postnatal depression can delay bonding, but it is treatable.
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