Trying Again After Miscarriage

Reacting to miscarriage is a personal process, but if you want to try again for a baby, what should you consider and how long should you wait?

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Coping with miscarriage is hopefully something you can share with your partner even if it isn’t easy to talk to other people about the experience. And as you will both find, there is no right answer on how to feel after a miscarriage.

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Miscarriage is not something that necessarily means you are incapable of having children, and it is more common than you probably think. Happily, many couples go on to have one, two or more children after they have suffered the tragedy of miscarriage.

Recovering from a miscarriage first

Before you can think about trying again, you need to allow your body to recover. Bleeding usually stops within a week (if it does not, you should go back to your doctor or contact the hospital). But you may also feel exhausted for a few days.

Depending on whether you had a spontaneous miscarriage or had to have treatment (a Dilation and Curettage, for example) at hospital, your body’s natural hormone levels may take about a month to six weeks to return to normal.

Your periods may return as soon as 28 days after your miscarriage, as ovulation can occur after two weeks. However, this again will vary. Your cycle usually returns within a month to six weeks, but might take a couple of cycles to settle back to your regular routine.

Are you ready to try again?

Many couples find that starting to try again for another child is the most positive way to come out of suffering a miscarriage. It is important not to use a new pregnancy as a ‘quick fix’ and is regarded as preciously as any other.

Make sure, as a couple, you talk it through and make sure you are both ready for this step, as a previous loss can understandably make one or both of you feel the pressure is on to conceive again. Also, it will affect your confidence during another pregnancy, and it’s important that you both feel you can express your fears about the health of a new foetus and then of the baby when it arrives.

It is not at all unusual to have these fears (or even dreams), but being able to voice them to each other (as well as to either friends or to will make your experience a much happier future pregnancy.

Having sex again

It is important not to have sex too soon. That is, not until the bleeding has stopped, as you are still recovering and intercourse could cause an infection.

Even before you see your next period, you should use contraception.

How long should you wait before trying to get pregnant again?

Many miscarriages occur randomly, but do talk to your GP or the consultant who treated you, about any possible concerns regarding your ongoing risk of having another miscarriage. (Any possible causes that can be ruled out or addressed, for example.)

It is possible to get pregnant straight away, though you will probably be far from mentally or physically ready for this.

Waiting until your first period has come and gone (a month to six weeks) will help your GP arrive at a more accurate due date.

Many health experts working in this field suggest waiting three to six months to enable your body and you (both) to prepare for the most positive experience next time round.

Use those months to build yourself back up, continuing with folic acid supplements and eating well.

Even if you got pregnant ‘by accident’ or very quickly last time, do not worry if you do not get pregnant straight away when you start trying again. In any given month, a couple with no potential fertility problems and who are having regular sex, only have a 30 per cent chance of getting pregnant. Your miscarriage will not have affected how long it takes for you to conceive, unless there is some other medical reason.

What happens if you miscarry again?

However, after repeated episodes, your doctor will investigate possible causes and these may well be easily addressed.

It is important to know that many couples that have suffered several losses go on to have healthy children.

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The Miscarriage Association have valuable advice available on their website, where you can print off the leaflet: Preparing for Another Pregnancy.

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