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Sterilisation during c/section! Sorry if not appropriate xx
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I have never thought of sterilisation until today!
Basically I am 38. I have 2 boys (nearly 15 and nearly 7) and am having my 3rd son by c/section on June 10th.
I know you can only have 3 c/sections (and this is my 3rd) and I have suffered from really really bad SPD this time round so it has put me off having anymore.
Anyway, at my consultants appointment today he asked me if I wanted to be sterilised whilst they do my c/section. This hit me like a bolt from the blue as I hadnt even thought about it. My Dh was sat there saying yes yes yes because otherwise he has said he will have the snip by the end of the year because he does not want to ever see me in this pain again!
I am soooooo confused about what to do. I know I have 8 wks til I have to inform the hospital but it seems so final. In reality I wont be having anymore kids but it even takes away the "what if one day" side of things and also - would I feel less of a woman? I just wondered if anyone else on here was offered this and/or had it done.
Sorry if putting this on here has upset or offended anyone I just didnt know where else to post and thought maybe on here someone else had been offered it!
Thanks for reading,
Love Lee
Basically I am 38. I have 2 boys (nearly 15 and nearly 7) and am having my 3rd son by c/section on June 10th.
I know you can only have 3 c/sections (and this is my 3rd) and I have suffered from really really bad SPD this time round so it has put me off having anymore.
Anyway, at my consultants appointment today he asked me if I wanted to be sterilised whilst they do my c/section. This hit me like a bolt from the blue as I hadnt even thought about it. My Dh was sat there saying yes yes yes because otherwise he has said he will have the snip by the end of the year because he does not want to ever see me in this pain again!
I am soooooo confused about what to do. I know I have 8 wks til I have to inform the hospital but it seems so final. In reality I wont be having anymore kids but it even takes away the "what if one day" side of things and also - would I feel less of a woman? I just wondered if anyone else on here was offered this and/or had it done.
Sorry if putting this on here has upset or offended anyone I just didnt know where else to post and thought maybe on here someone else had been offered it!
Thanks for reading,
Love Lee
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i will say the recovery from this section (10yr old was emer section)was a bit harder but i think that was a few different factors ie being older and old scaring etc but now 6 months down the line i fine and have no problems
it is a big decision and if your not 100% for it don't do it don't feel under pressure cos they have you open anyway its something you have to feel is right for you for life. good luck babe ask me anything and i will try and answer as best i can
fea x
In reality I suppose it would be the right thing to do. As you say I am going to be open anyway and my tubes will be there right in front of them. I just didnt know if it hindered recovery or something? Does it? Also, I suppose am getting it muddled with hysterectomy in a way with the "not feeling womanly" thing.
I suppose it would relax things in "the bedroom" At least wont be panicing like a teenager if I forgot pill or whatever! My Oh has a daughter from previous relationship so we really couldnt manage 5 kids!
Have 8 wks left til I have to tell them so I think by then it would have sunk in and I will realise it could well be the best decision.
Love Lee
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recovery was a bit slower but i was still driving the car after 3 weeks and walking with the pram to the shops in 2 weeks and with the dog (big weimerana) and pram after 5wks i had no infections or wound problems i was just very tired but i had just had 2 major ops and was breast feeding so my advice is to accept all the help you can get rest for at least an hour in the morn and aft and you will recover well oh that and doing your exercices the hospital give you as i tended to get bloating wind in my tummy and the execices help get it out!!not very glamerous i know lol
fea x
You have 8 weeks to think things through and if you are still unsure you can still say no until you are clear in your own mind. As for feeling less womanly, my mum had a hysterectomy at the age of 35, she has never felt less of a woman. After her recovery we got our mum back and we were able to live fuller lives without worrying if mum was going to be able to join in with what we were up to - but I think that is a different issue.
Sorry for waffling. All the best, Denise xxxx
I told my Oh earlier that I know if I weighed up the pros and cons it would be best to have it done with the section. But also because it is so final I am going to find it difficult and he told me to take my time and if I did decide against having it done, he would have the snip!
Have taken in what you have both said and it is now a serious consideration, when the consultant mentioned it my immediate reaction was no way!!
Thanks again, Love Lee xxxxxx
(hope your los are doing well by the way)
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Donna
i know someone who has had 4 c sections!!
my mum had her tubes tied, although not during a c section, and she said it was the best decision with a quick recovery.
i aslo know a few people who have had the snip...apparently it increases their sex drive massively!!!!!
just make sure your 100% ok with it before you make an final decisions.
good luck hunny.
leona. xxx
I had my 5th child on 26th feb. I have had all vaginal births but had placenta previa and had to have emergency section after suffering heavy bleeding.
We had decided once I knew it was a section that I would get sterilised. they tied, clipped and did everything they could to stop me having more. My recovery does seem to have been longer than people with just a sction and I still feel sore inside at 5 weeks on.... BUT I would still recommend it. It means I dont have to worry again. I dont feel any less a woman at all as I will still have periods (shame) they may get heavier but as I bf I will not know for a while.
My hubby was happy for me to do it as he too was going to get the snip! Feel a bit cheated that he got away with that as after 5 kids I thought it was his turn..ha ha ha.
good luck with your baby and only you can really decide.
D xxx
I think I am heading more in the direction of having it done because I really am suffering from SPD and dont feel I could go through it again! Hearing various replies has really helped but yeah T,L,K&O I was sort of hoping that OH would be going through the pain this time lol!!!
I will definately put more thought into it but you have all been a lot of help - thanks!!!