Forgetful ‘hot mess’ mum reminds other mothers: “YOU ARE DAMN FABULOUS!”

"I’m that mom who lets her kids have endless screen time sometimes (ok, more than sometimes) just because I don’t feel like fighting and need to get a few things done" - who can relate? ☝️☝️☝️


Here at MFM HQ we report on every kind of mum out there – the celeb mums, the super-fit mums, the Insta mums – but the mums we really *get* are the regular mums.


The ones that remind us a bit of ourselves. Cue this Facebook post from blogger duo Farrah and Danielle, aka Where The Eff Is My Handbook?

It reads:

“Ok, full disclosure: I really AM a hot-mess mom.

“I am consistently five steps behind where I should be in the world of responsible adulting. Like, for real.

“Never once have I thought to myself, “OMG, I think I’m actually tackling this whole parenthood thing.”

“Nope. Not once. Do I think I’m a good mom? Yeah, I really do. But I don’t have it all together by any stretch of the imagination. And that’s ok, I’m realising.

“I’m not so sure having it together and being a good mom are even synonymous. I don’t think it’s any reflection on, well, anything, in my opinion. So, I’m coming forward to say it to everyone…I’m a hot mess.

“And I kinda just want to embrace it and move on, cause I have more important issues on which to dwell.

“I am that mom who doesn’t do dishes at night before I go to bed. I do dishes when I get around to doing dishes.

“I’m that mom who grabs her kids’ clothes out of the dryer in the morning because nothing is folded and put away.

“I’m that mom who forgets to send in forms and gets calls reminding me that, yes, I need to send in those forms.

“I’m that mom who misses a birthday party or an appointment from time to time because I forgot to put it in my calendar.

“I’m that mom who forgets to RSVP and gets a last minute text asking if my kid is coming to the party.

“I’m that mom who screams all morning to get the kids out of the house because we are all running late.

“I’m that mom who packs a crazy, one-food-group lunch because I haven’t gotten around to going food shopping.

“I’m that mom who lets her kids have endless screen time sometimes (ok, more than sometimes) just because I don’t feel like fighting and need to get a few things done.

“I’m that mom who has piles upon piles upon piles in the house of papers, books, and projects to go through that I say every day I’ll take care of but never do.

“I’m also that mom whose kids are safe.
“I’m also that mom whose kids are, for the most part, happy.
“I’m also that mom whose home has lots of love and laughter.
“I’m also that mom who cheers on her kids and is their biggest fan.
“I’m also that mom who is constantly working to show her kids they are accepted no matter what.
“I’m also that mom who takes her kids to do cool stuff and have great experiences.
“I’m also that mom who loves being a mom.

“I’m definitely a hot-mess mom, but dammit, I’m still pretty fabulous.



The team here nodded that we’ve done a fair few things on that list this week alone ?  And the post certainly struck a chord with other mums on social media, getting shared more than 1,400 times.

One mum said: I’m that mom! This came at the perfect time, this morning I was the yelling mom.? “

Another said: “Thank you for sharing this. You lifted up this hot mess mom having a challenging morning. 


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And finally there was this: “I am so that mom! And I don’t have littles anymore. And that’s ok. I am fabulous. 


❤️ “

What do you think?

Would you describe yourself as a hot mess mum? Perhaps you’re on the other end of the scale and are super-organised?

We’d love to know either way! Tell is in the comments below or over on Facebook

Image: Where the Eff is my Handbook? on Facebook

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