The difference a memory jar made to Rio Ferdinand’s grieving kids

Former footballer Rio introduced the technique to help his 3 children remember their mum...


Rio Ferdinand is opening up about life as a single dad – and the technique that helps his children through the grieving process.


Two years after losing his wife Rebecca to cancer, he’s candidly sharing details of his life with his 3 children – in a new BBC documentary, Being Mum And Dad, and in two new interviews.

The 36-year-old former England footballer revealed that, for 10-year-old son Lorenz, and his younger siblings Tate and Tia, talking about their mum was incredibly difficult.

He said he got nothing from them – especially his 2 boys.

But after learning about a technique that helps children share their feelings – asking them to write down their memories and put them in a jar – things started to change:

“When the memory jar came it triggered so much,” he told Radio Times.

“I could hear the joy in their voices, I could hear they wanted to speak about it.

“So off the back of that there’s been more conversations. We can talk about Rebecca now. That memory jar has changed absolutely everything.”

He also told The Sun: “When someone comes into the house my kids will say to them, ‘Have you left a memory?’ and that gives them a link to keep speaking and keep the memory alive, which is a huge thing.”

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Rio also talked about how his kids missed the way their mum did things around the house – and how he thought he’d never be able to measure up.

He described his first “scrambling” attempt at the school run: “It was the first time they’ve ever been late for school but I was having a panic attack on my own in the house.

“I had to go into a room on my own and sit there and think, ‘What happens now?’ Then I’ve got one of them in the car going, ‘Mum wouldn’t do this’. You don’t know what to do. You sit there.”

And he told Radio Times: “Rebecca used to fix their beds a certain way, and when they’d tell me it almost felt like a slight.

“I’d think, ‘Whatever I do isn’t going to be good enough’.”

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Images: Instagram/Rio Ferdinand

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