If you’ve already decided on a homebirth for your baby then the chances are that you’ve done quite a lot of research into giving birth and what it may entail. Educating yourself about what you can expect during labour is an important first step towards preparing yourself for your home delivery, but the preparation doesn’t stop there. Here are some suggestions for ways in which you can set a calm, positive and happy scene for when the big day – or night – finally arrives.
1. Find an experienced midwife – You’ll want to like and trust your midwife of course, but getting along well is no substitute for experience. Look for a midwife with plenty of homebirths under her belt, with experience of handling difficult situations and who is very supportive of your home birth choice. Don’t be afraid to ask the midwife about her experience, especially if you have a particular concern. If your health authority doesn’t give you a chance to actively choose and get to know a midwife then you might want to consider paying someone privately, or employing a doula with whom you can develop a relationship of trust.
2. Have supplies ready well in advance – You won’t want your other half, or yourself, to be dashing around the place looking for necessary items when you’re in the throes of childbirth, so making sure you have everything ready, waiting and easy to get at is important. You might also want to write a list of what’s needed and where it is in case you’re in no mood or position to field questions about where the towels are. />
3. Prepare your bed – Even you’re planning to give birth somewhere other than your bed, for example in a home birthing pool, it’s a good idea to get your bed ready so that you can keep that option open. You can make things a little easier if you make up your bottom sheet as usual and then cover it with a waterproof sheet and put an old sheet over the top. After the birth you can just peel away the two sheets and you’ve got a clean bed to rest in.
4. Plan for siblings – Even though you’re planning to be home you’d still do with an extra hand with older children if you’d like them at home with you, or even have them with you for part of labour. Your birth partner will be too busy being there for you through the birth and assisting the midwife to give any attention to other children. An extra pair of hands will also come in very handy right after the birth when you’ll both probably need a good rest.
Have a think about what you’d like your help to do with the children (going out, watching films, meal details etc.), whether your children will be allowed into to see you at any point, and when, and what you want them to be told if they do hear any birthing pains. Make sure that you communicate your wishes clearly – write a list for them if you think it will help.
5. Prepare pain relief – You may not have the full range of medicinal pain relief to hand that you would in a hospital, but there are still plenty of pain relief options for home birth such as: exercises, massage, gas and air, pethidine, TENS machines, aromatherapy, acupuncture and reflexology and