Constance Hall's housework rant: 'Do the f***ing dishes without being asked once in a while'
Mum blogger Constance is more than tired of asking her family for help. Do you get where's she's coming from?
When Aussie blogger Constance Hall has something to say - man, she just comes right out and says it - which we kind of love about her ?
And in her latest rant, on Facebook, she's decided to lay into all those other halves who just don't pull their weight around the house.
Now, we KNOW it isn't aways the dads of the household. One MFM writer says it's definitely her husband keeping the house running, rather than her ?
However, in Constance's case, we're assuming it's other half Denim - who she's newly married to - getting the stick here.
With 6 kids between them - 4 are Constance's from a previous relationship and 2 are Denim's - it's probably fair to say there's a hell of a lot to do around the house. Here's what Constance had to say about it all...
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Constance's post in full
"Recently while bitching about the fact that I do absolutely everything around my house with a bunch of friends all singing "preach Queen", someone said to me "if you want help you need to be specific... ask for it. People need lists, they aren't mind readers."
"So I tried that, asking.. specifics..
"Can you take the bin out?"
"Can you get up with the kids? I'm just a little tired after doing it on my own for 329 years"
"Can you go to woolies? I've done 3 loads of washing and made breaky [sic], lunch, picked up all the kids school books, dealt with the floating sh*t in the pond."
"And yeah, she was right... sh*t got done.
"But I was exhausted, just keeping the balls in the air... remembering what needs to be asked to be done, constant nagging...
"And do you know what happened the minute I stopped asking?
"NOTHING. Again.
"And so I've come to the conclusion that it's not your job to ask for help, it's not my job to write f***ing lists.. We have enough god damn jobs and teaching someone how to consider me and my ridiculous work load is not one of them.
"Just do it.
"Just think about each other, what it takes to run the god damn house. Is one of you working while the other puts up their feet?
"Is one of you hanging out with mates while the other peels the thirtieth piece of fruit for the day? Is one of you carrying the weight?
"Because when the nagging stops, when the asking dies down, when there are no more lists...
"All you're left with is silent resentment. And that my friends is relationship cancer...
"It's not up to anyone else to teach you consideration. That's your job.
"Just do the f*****g dishes without being asked once in a while mother f*****s."
Blimey ?
Chatting about this at MFM HQ today, one of our mums said it's just a fact you need to ask for help sometimes - though she reckons the key is to have designated tasks that you both know you do, and you do it daily, or weekly.
Another said she's the one that needs to get nagged to do stuff from her partner as he's way more domesticated than she is.
What do you think?
Do you get where Constance is coming from? Do you resent constantly having to ask your other half to do help around the house? Or do you find the burden is pretty equally split?
Perhaps you do most of it and you're OK with it? Tell us in the comments below or over on Facebook
Image: Facebook/Constance Hall
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Tara is mum to 1 daughter, Bodhi Rae, and has worked as Content Editor and Social Media Producer at MadeForMums since 2015
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