“I fight with my partner and feel like a failure”: mum’s honest breastfeeding post NAILS it

How many of you can totally relate to this mum's comments?


Honest social media posts from everyday mums are nothing new: here at MFM we see plenty of them each week. But some just seem to hit the mark more than others, right?


There was the mum who shared her horrendous shopping experience with the kids – which went viral – as did the post about dealing with a teething baby and just how damn hard that can be.

And while plenty of celeb mums are happy to share brelfies (breastfeeding selfies) on Instagram, there’s not usually much accompanying story to go with them – and rarely a hint of any struggle they might be going through.

So we LOVE this honest Instagram post from mum Heyonaaaa, who’s decided to bare all on what she’s going through trying to nurse her newborn.

Here’s the post in full…

“The feeling you get when your newborn cries for milk is hard to describe. The heartbreak you feel when your newborn cries and you don’t have milk is even harder to describe.

“Nevermind that the nipples are cracked and sore, baby’s cries sound like ringing alarms inside the brain and I’m desperate to do anything to alleviate his discomforts and meet his needs.

“When the night hits, I have to make a choice to supplement with formula or let him sleep hungry. Or more like wake up every hour, stress and fuss to calm his hungry cries, fight with my loving partner, and feel like a failure – shame.

“And still, which ever choice we make, nobody wins – shame. What the hell is in formula? Why does this stuff smell like rubber?

“Will my milk ever come in? Am I doing something wrong? Nobody ever told me. Nobody ever told me about the challenges of breastfeeding.

“This must be an unspoken reality for SO many new moms. I speak to myself and whoever may be struggling to feed their newborn. Feel no guilt or shame as you continue into your journey of motherhood.

“Some things we just cannot control, and so, we will make the best choices that we know how and we will have done it all with love in our hearts SO full that it cries out from our eyes.

“I love you. Bo. Ps. God is good and community is even better. Because milkmaids are a thing and I have sisters. Sisters with babies who love me and love my baby!!

“Community community community community. Sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood sisterhood. Mothers before me before her before her before her. Pps. Milk increases everyday and we have to supplement less and less each night ??? “

Your experience

There are so many questions and thoughts here that we reckon many, many new mums have when they’re getting to grips with breastfeeding.

Yep – no doubt – it can be tough. Fair do’s to this mama for sharing her story: we hope you’re doing OK ✊

But did you have difficulties breastfeeding? Did you/do you find it helpful being able to read about what other mums have been through?

Tell us in the comments below or over on Facebook

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