So, so many changes come with having a baby. Life as we know it goes out the window. And, for many of us, the body we once knew changes completely, too.
And while some of us are able to embrace it all as part of our new-found mum-hood; for others, it can be harder to accept.
Here at MFM HQ, we have to say that a recent post from Laura Mazes, the mummy blogger Mum On The Run, really struck a chord with us. She addresses her husband as she talks about the changes her body has gone through, writing:
“This isn’t the body you fell in love with,” I said to him. “The body he fell in love with was toned, it had muscles, there were no stretch marks on my belly, none on my boobs, no gut from muscle separation.
“The body he fell in love with fitted into tight jeans, could walk into a shop and grab any size and walk out, knowing it would fit.
“This body now couldn’t shop at those stores, and mostly wears leggings.
“His body stayed the same, but mine changed in every way. It isn’t fair…”
Man, can you relate to parts of this? We know we can (though maybe not the bits about being ‘toned’ or able to ‘grab any size..’.?)
But finding it hard to deal with the changes? Absolutely.
The best bit about this post, though, isn’t the fact that this mum has shared something so many of us can relate to; it’s her husband’s AWESOME response:
“Then he said, ‘You’re right. It isn’t the body I fell in love with. Instead it’s a body that grew our children, it fed our children, it comforted our children, it made life. Your body is the one I fall in love with every day.
“‘I didn’t know what love was until I saw this body and found out all it could do, so thank you.’
Wow. We have to say, we LOVE this response, and he’s right! Your body is AMAZING because of what it’s done and continues to do as a mother. So celebrate every bit of it ✊✊✊
Laura finishes her post with, “Do not be ashamed of what you have, or what your mum body looks like. There’s plenty of time to give up cake in the future. For now, enjoy the moments you have, and enjoy the fact that you have made something that is worth every stretch mark and every dimple.
“If you needed a reminder, this is it. This body you have now, it’s worth every bit of love and more.”