For many of us, the sudden (or increased) appearance of stretch marks are part and parcel of pregnancy and having kids.
And while some of us learn to love ’em; for some of us, well, it might take a while…
So, how do you explain them years down the line when the little one you carried in your (stretch-marked) belly can suddenly talk, is super inquisitive, and starts asking questions about your body?
Body positivity activist Alison Kimmey was in that very sitch, when her little girl Cambelle started wondering about her stretch marks while they were at the beach.
Luckily, she hit the nail on the head with her response.
She posted it, on her Facebook page, in full:
“Today while I was laying at the pool with my daughter:
“Her: ‘Why is your tummy big, mama?’
“Me: ‘What do you mean, baby?’
“Her: ‘These lines, mama.’ (Pointing to stretch marks on my tummy)
“Me: ‘Oh, those are my stretch marks!’
“Her: ‘Where do they come from?’
“Me: ‘Well, when I was a little older than you, I got some stripes when I grew really fast! And some of these stripes are from when I had you growing in my tummy.’
“Her: *looking inquisitively*
“Me: ‘They are shiny and sparkly. Aren’t they pretty?’
“Her: ‘Yes, I like this one the best. It’s so glittery. When can I get some?’
“Me: ‘Oh, you will get your glitter stripes when you get a little bit older, baby!”
“IT MATTERS HOW WE TALK TO OUR DAUGHTERS ABOUT OUR BODIES! They are listening. They are asking. And it is up to YOU to help them shape how they will feel about these things! Will you continue the shame that society has placed on you? Or will you teach her a new way of love?
“I choose love ???”
We love how lightly-but-cleverly Allison phrased everything in her response, and we certainly love the term ‘glitter stripes’. In fact, we might just start using that ourselves ✨
Have your say
Has your child ever asked you questions about your stretch marks – or any part of your body? How did you respond? We’d love to hear your stories on Facebook, or in the comment below
Images: Facebook/Allison Kimmey, Instagram