Briefly jumping off the social treadmill doesn’t mean you can’t get back on it. So next time you feel like you’re a lifetime behind on what’s happening in the world outside from your baby, check out these handy tips.
- Take your children wherever you can to soak up some culture or see a new exhibition or show. Most places have children’s clubs or crèches, so use this to your advantage. Take them to art galleries, theatres or on heritage walks.
- When spending quality time with your partner and his friends, impose a strict ‘no children talk’ rule. Always take your mobile phone with you for emergencies, but keep it out of sight so there are distractions. This is a great way to recapture the romance that sometimes dwindles in between the demands of parenthood!
- Use your knowledge of all things baby and toddler. Propose a trivia quiz next time you’re with friends and show off your knowledge about the ethnical references behind the TV show, Rastamouse, or the latest celebrity who is pregnant. That way, you can still veer towards the baby talk but with an interesting edge.
- Set up a book club with your fellow mum friends. Chances are, they will be feeling the same as you and will want to steer away from the baby bore label!
What the self-confessed baby bores say…
“I’m always talking about my baby. She’s six weeks old and it’s been a while since I had my first baby so I talk about it a lot as I’ve forgotten a lot of things! Luckily, I have great, patient friends who don’t me being a baby bore!” says MFM user Susan Burbridge.
“I know I’m one although I’ve never been called on to my face!” says MFM user Christina Forss. “But I’ve decided that it’s ok as it’s not going to last forever. I’m at stay-at-home mum with children under two, so there’s not much to talk about at the moment.”
…and the anti-baby bore mums
“I’m a mum and I hate constant baby talk! If I’m at a toddler group, fair enough. But not when I’m doing things without my children,” says MFM user Zoe Cole. “I steer well clear of talking about my children unless anyone asks.
“When I’m out with my friends, I like to be me, not a mum,” says MFM user Tracy Cox-Horton. “I love my daughter but also know it’s important to have me time and a normal adult conversation.”