1. Your toddler throws a huge strop in the middle of the frozen veg aisle of the supermarket. You…
a) Get down on the floor and join in – she’ll soon realise how silly she looks.
b) Turn beetroot red and swiftly move on to the frozen pudding aisle, hoping the lure of ice-cream will distract her.
c) You get down to her level, make eye contact and explain to her that this is not acceptable behaviour.
2. You pop into the newsagents when your toddler starts yelling, “Want sweets, Mummy!” You…
a) Tell him he can’t have everything he wants, buy your newspaper and leave promptly.
b) Give in – you just couldn’t bear another one of his screaming fits.
c) Explain why he can’t have everything he wants and offer a compromise – when you get home, you can bake cakes together.
3. You’re at mum-in-law’s for Sunday lunch when your toddler refuses to eat his peas and starts throwing them on the floor. You…
a) Tell him if he doesn’t eat them then there will be no dessert – and stick to it.
b) Get all flustered, apologise profusely and drag him out of the room.
c) Keep your cool and try to reason with him, despite having an audience.
4. You ask your toddler to brush her pearly whites but she refuses and clamps her mouth shut. You…
a) Tell her straight – no brushing means no telly tomorrow.
b) Let her off tonight – she’s tired and you don’t want to set off another tantrum.
c) Explain why it’s important and then make brushing into a game.
5. You mention the word ‘bedtime’, then her eyes narrow and her face starts turning red. You…
a) Don’t give her a chance to throw a wobbly – any fuss means lights out without a story.
b) Give in to her demands this time, even if it means coming to bed with you.
c) Create a reward chart and stick to an enjoyable routine of bath, stories and bed.