Everyone knows that men don’t like to talk about their problems, but findings from a new study has found that this habit could start during childhood and that parents need to be encouraging their little boys to talk from a young age.
“For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” says Dr. Amanda Rose, leader of the study involving 2,000 children and teenagers, published in the journal Child Development.
“However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, the boys’ responses suggested that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity,” added Amanda.
According to researchers, girls believe that talking about their problems will make make them feel better, while boys think it is a waste of time. Boys think that there are other ways to cope with problems other than talking, so are more likely to engage in different activities to take their mind off it. The researchers think these opposing attitudes explain why men and women argue in later relationships, reports the Daily Mail.
So what can you do as a parent to help your boys talk about their problems? Encourage them to realise that sometimes it is good to talk, suggests Amanda, while also letting your little girls know that they should not dwell excessively on their problems.