Michelle Obama, the former First Lady, has opened up about using IVF to conceive her 2 daughters, now 20-year-old Malia and 17-year-old Sasha.
In her new book, Becoming, Michelle shared that her husband Barack Obama, the former US president, was working while she underwent the early stages of IVF treatment – giving herself injections to ready her body for conception.
She says she was left “largely on my own to manipulate my reproductive system into peak efficiency.”
Michelle also reveals that it was fertility struggles that led to her using assisted conception, over 20 years ago.
She very sadly had a miscarriage when she and Barack were trying to get pregnant.
Now aged 54, she reflects on that time in her memoir: “We were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t going well,” she writes.
“We had one pregnancy test come back positive, which caused us both to forget every worry and swoon with joy, but a couple of weeks later I had a miscarriage, which left me physically uncomfortable and cratered any optimism we felt.”
The experience of miscarrying, she adds, left her feeling “lost and alone.”
In an interview with Good Morning America, Michelle says she felt like a failure, too – mostly because she didn’t know just how common miscarriage is.
“I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were because we don’t talk about them
“We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken. It’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.”
We have to say: Michelle is right on the money here ?
SO many of us will go through miscarriage or undergo fertility treatment in our lifetime – and in many cases, experience all the feelings of failure, loss, heartbreak and even guilt that comes with it.
It’s only through talking about it openly and honestly that we come to realise we’re not alone, and that we certainly haven’t failed.
And heartening to hear Michelle’s story of happiness at the end of such a difficult journey ?
H/t: The Associated Press
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