Mum explains why she’s CHARGING for children to attend her twins’ birthday party

Is she being unreasonable or does she have a point?


Birthday parties are a HOT topic in the world of parenting: we’ve reported on the controversial ‘tiered’ parties, on mums who’ve requested a minimum spend on presents, as well as those heartbreaking tales of the parties no one attends ?


And now a mum has come out to the press to explain why she’s charging for kids to attend her twins’ 5th birthday party, after another parent whose child was invited posted about the fee on a Facebook community page.

The Facebook post read: “My 4yr old has been invited to a classmates 5th bday party.

“The said parent has hired Fun Valley and stipulated a payment of £6 per child on the birthday invitations.

“My older kids are in secondary school and, in all my years of hosting and being invited to kids parties, I have never been asked to pay for attending a party. Is this the done thing nowadays?”

As the post became public, the mum who’d asked for the fee felt she needed to talk to the press about why she’d done it. Ruma Ali, from Leicester (we’ve given her name as she’s now openly shared her side of the story) told the Leicester Mercury that her boys are in separate classes so have lots of friends between them, meaning she’d invited 60 children in all. 

“I didn’t want anybody to get left out,” she said. “I thought I don’t want to pick and choose which friends can come.

“I thought, invite the whole class and then nobody’s upset. I thought they [the parents] would understand [the charge].”

The venue was charging £11 per child, so the cost for it would have been £660, and Ali said she was going to be spending an extra £500 on goody bags and cakes.

She added that even if people didn’t feel they could pay the fee, she’d still be happy for them to come, and also said she’d not had any other complaints from parents.

What do you think?

Hmmmm – this one’s really got us talking at MFM HQ today. Our initial response was that, when it comes to things like kids’ parties, if you can’t afford it, don’t do it (none of us could afford £1,100 for our children’s parties). 

If we were on a budget, we might have been more inclined to have a mini-party at home with 2 or 3 of each of the twins’ best friends.

On the other hand, she’s doing it for her boys, and perhaps it’s nice that she doesn’t want any child to feel excluded. 

But what’s your take? We’d love to know. Tell us in the comments below or over on Facebook

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