US stand-up comedian Sarah Silverman has stirred up a storm of controversy after commenting on her decision not to have children.
The 46-year-old star, who’s also well known for appearing in films like School Of Rock and Take This Waltz, took to Twitter to share her thoughts.
She addressed the fact that her job as a comic requires constant touring, and as a result, she felt she had to pick either her career or having a child.
In her words:
“As a comic always working and on the road I have had to decide between motherhood and living my fullest life and I chose the latter.
“Men don’t have to do that. I’d so love to be a fun dad, coming home from the road and being my best fun dad self.
“So this is just a lil f*** all y’all bc u can’t be a woman w/out sacrifice and that’s the fact jack.
“And I [love] my comedian brothers that acknowledge this truth. They’re my family and for a lot of us women comic sisters, our only family.”
Backlash was almost immediate – with many taking offence at her words, which they felt implied that being a parent was in her eyes a lesser choice, or ‘unfulfilling’.
“Sarah. OMG. You chose the option that works best for you. Period. There is mother-shaming in that statement…
“It implies women who choose motherhood don’t choose their ‘fullest life’,” wrote one.
Meanwhile, others came to Sarah’s defence, arguing that the phrase doesn’t pass judgment on others at all, but simply refers to her making the right decision for her.
One supporter argued: “To everyone else: she said *her* fullest life. That’s not up to anyone but her to determine.”
Another stream of criticism said that hers was ‘old thinking’ and that, in 2017, women can choose both motherhood and career.
And that her ‘fun dad’ comments were ‘out of touch’.
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