Should you find out the sex of your baby before he or she is born – or is it better/nicer to wait until the day you give birth before you find out if you’re having a son or daughter?
When we asked our mums on Facebook what they did, 65% of the people who responded to our poll said they did want to find out the sex.
And when we delved further, we found some of the main reasons to find out were to:
- start buying things for baby
- prep siblings by telling them if they were having a sister or brother
- decide on a name – or at least choose favourites from the ‘boy’ or ‘girl’ list
- so they could have a gender reveal party.
Finding out the sex of your baby – mums who wanted to
Mum Kelly O tells us she was really keen to find out whether she was having a boy or girl mainly, she says, because, “I can’t wait to start buying things!” Finding out she was having a girl also meant she could decide on a name for her baby – and she’d opted for ‘Eliza’ at 27 weeks.
And Lauren E was really keen to find out the sex – because of the parties it meant she could have. She tells us: “It means you can have a gender reveal party. We are getting an early can around the 14th or 15th week – and it means people can buy stuff according to whether we’re having a boy or a girl, too – not yellow!”
Finding out the sex of your baby – mums who didn’t want to
Of course, for some, the idea of finding out the sex of your baby before he or she has arrived spoils the surprise of it all. And in the ‘old’ days of course – you didn’t have the option.
Louise H tells us: “We decided not to find out, we’ll just find out the old-fashioned way, on the day, as we really don’t mind.”
And Rebecca G also wanted a surprise – but nearly didn’t get one! She says: “We had to stop the consultant from telling us! I found out with my first but I’m more relaxed with this one, and it will be the last one we have so it will be nice to have a surprise.”
Finding out the sex of your baby – and getting it wrong
If you do opt to find out what you’re having, it’s important to remember that scans aren’t 100% accurate – and you might find that what you’re told about your baby and what you get are 2 different things.
For example, a mum on our forum told us: “I was told I was having a boy at my scan so I was most surprised when a little girl popped out!
“But they were never sure. The sonographer said she ‘thought’ it was a boy. I took it with a pinch of salt and bought mostly neutral things.” Phew ?
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