After a miscarriage, it can be hard for many women to find the support that they need. You might feel you’re being a burden by sharing your feelings with friends or family members, or you simply don’t have anyone to talk to.
The Miscarriage Association offers women information, support or just someone to talk to when they most need it. They can offer a shoulder to women who have suffered not only miscarriages, but also ectopic pregnancies (when a fertilised egg implants itself outside of the womb) and molar pregnancies (when the cells of a fertilised egg don’t grow in a way that can support a pregnancy).
“We support not only women going through a miscarriage, but those who are post-miscarriage and women who are pregnant but scared of losing their baby, due to the fact they have lost a baby previously,” says Ruth Bender-Atik from The Miscarriage Association. “We also have men who call in, feeling as though they need support and advice, after their partners have suffered a miscarriage.”
Honest, clear advice
The Association gives straightforward and honest support to those who contact them.”People like to ask us the questions that they don’t necessarily want to ask at the doctors or things that they don’t understand; for instance, what it means when a doctor doesn’t send them for a scan and what certain medical terms might mean,” explains Ruth.
The organisation is mainly reliant on volunteers, with only six paid members of staff. Many of the volunteers have been through the same heartbreak as callers, so people who phone in can feel that they are being understand on a more personal level. “We have 20,000 hits a month on the website and about 100 calls. We also get lots of emails and people using our support forum, so the volunteer support is essential to us, along with their help raising awareness of The Miscarriage Association,” says Ruth.
Help is at hand
High profile miscarriages, such as Lily Allen and Amanda Holden’s losses, have helped to raise public awareness of miscarriage. However, they’ve also shown the light at the end of the tunnel, with both of the stars subsequently enjoying healthy pregnancies.
If you have been affected by miscarriage and need support, advice or just someone who wlil listen to you, then call the Miscarriage Association Helpline on 01924 200 799, or visit them at The Miscarriage Association.