Why it’s not ‘weird’ to have your dad at the birth

If it's right for you - go for it! Whatever gets you through we say ?


There’s no doubt about it – when we asked our mums on Facebook and our forum who they had (or wanted to have) with them at the birth – most agreed it was their partner.


Natasha D put it like this: “Wouldn’t think to have anyone else but my partner with me.

“He is the child’s dad and the birth is just as emotional and special for the dads as well as the mums.”

And, we have to say – lots and lots of you also said you wanted your mum there, too.

“My mum was there when I had an elective cesarean on my second. During my first I was taken into theatre and had a forceps delivery which was quite traumatic for both me and my partner,” said Charlotte D.

“He didn’t feel he could do it a second time around so my mum came into theatre with me on my second.”

But there have been a few of you who shared that you would have liked your dad there.

Vicky T told us: “I cried for my dad with my first born and with my twins I had him as my backbone for my caesarean!

“People think it’s weird but I don’t care – I wouldn’t have had it any other way!”


Mum lw1995 agrees: “Yes defo [I’d have my dad there]! I have thought about this many times: if you want someone to share that moment with, it doesn’t matter who that person may be – do what makes you happy!”

And MrsHunt110611 told us: “Having spent some time thinking about it (in case the worst happened) I do think I would prefer to have my dad there – rather than my mum.

“I think my mum would worry a lot more than my dad: my dad is far more level-headed. Also it would mean that my mum could watch over my toddler! “

Hmmm, interesting right? A few years ago model Heidi Klum spoke about how her dad was there to film her birth (whether or not you film it is a whole other discussion ?) so that her then-partner Seal could be by her side and not in charge of the camera.

She said: “I had no problem with my dad doing it at all. I’m his kid. He made me! So he can watch my kids being born. To me that is totally normal.”

And with that – we reckon Heidi’s hit the nail on the head. She said that to her – it’s totally normal.

And there are definitely mums out there who feel that, for whatever reason, their dad is just the right person to be at the birth.

And we’re totally not gonna argue with that – whatever gets you through, hey? ?

What do you think?

Would you like your dad to be at the birth? Tell us in the comments below or over on Facebook

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