Toddler behaviour advice
Our health visitor helps your tackle sibling rivalry and shy tots with her useful tips

Tackling sibling rivalry
- Ignore squabbles and leave the room. Things generally settle quicker without an audience.
- Focus on a solution. If you do have to intervene, don’t ask who did what.
- Encourage turn taking using an egg timer. It gives a really easy-to-understand option.
- Keep precious toys in individual boxes. Everything else is fair game.
- Use family reward charts. An incentive for being kind, sharing and helpful can encourage everyone to work together for a family treat.
Coping with winter days
- Get out every day, even if it’s cold and rainy. A change of scenery is good for everyone.
- Plan regular changes of activity to break up your day. Mix up floor play with story time and painting.
- Share childcare with a friend so each of you gets a break.
- Visit your local toddler groups (check where these are using our Neighbourhood section). They’re a great way for both of you to make new friends.
- Stick to healthy comfort foods, rather than sugary treats, to help fight winter bugs.
- Your baby’s self esteem and confidence
- How do I deal with sibling rivalry?
- Toddler winter health guide
Tips to boost your tot’s self esteem
- Actions speak louder than words. Cuddles and hugs are daily reminders that your toddler is loved.
- Praise efforts, not just achievements. This will encourage her to try again.
- Reward her with time spent together. Your attention will mean far more than any toy or sweet.
- Have your own family rituals. Friday story nights or special Sunday walks help build a sense of belonging.
- Let her make mistakes. Reassure her that everyone slips up sometimes and it’ll be different next time she tries.
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