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I went for my 20 weeks today to be told it's died I don't know what to do plz help
07/10/2015 at 22:49
I'm so sorry for your loss, thoughts are with you at these hard times.
My mother lost my brothers 4 years ago on the 13th of October. She was 22 weeks. She didn't even know she was actually in early labour apart from when she went to the toilet and he was there. He was so beautiful, all babies are. The hospital we're so nice and supportive. Although he should have been classed as a MC because he lived for an hour he was a death which shocked staff and nurses as they'd never seen this before. They ensured he was clean, dressed and wrapped in a little homemade cot big enough for him so he didn't look lost.
14/11/2015 at 08:33
Hi am sorry for the losses people have suffered. I know how hard it is. right now I can't even talk about it all I want to do is cry. It's been 6 weeks now since I went into early labour. I was 22 weeks pregnant. It started with what I thought were braxton hicks but they were contractions. They carried on for about 3 hours getting more regular and more painful so I called the labour ward they said I should come in. They checked baby's heartbeat everything seemed fine. Just as I was about to go home when I went to the toilet there was a little bit of blood. When they checked my cervix it was 4cm dilated. They said there was nothing they could do. Within hours baby was born. Complete shock! I thought I was coping but after seeing a bereavement midwife this week I am in bits. Angry, disappointed, scared, confused and just sad. I'm tired of talking to my husband as I don't feel as though he understands. Although he is grieving too he prefers to get on with life as if it never happened. So I just don't talk. I cry.
How and when does it get easier? At first I wanted to try again straight away. Now I don't even want to. I have one daughter and now I am struggling to be a good mum. Initially I poured everything into her as a way of dealing with the loss but now I feel as though I only have the energy to cry and barely sustain myself. My husband and mum are doing their best to look after her. I know it is unfair to her. She is just a year old. I think she senses that something is wrong. I just feel numb and detached. People think that having one child takes away the pain of losing one. It doesn't. Loss is loss and grief is grief.
I would just like to know when it gets better...
17/05/2016 at 02:17
I was right at 20 weeks when I lost my first baby boy. That was 20 years ago. I still have trouble dealing with it sometimes. Mother's Day and Valentines Day every year are my worst times. He was born and died on Valentine's day. It does get easier but it will never go away. It helps me when I can talk to people about it.
26/03/2017 at 05:41
I am the father who lost his 20 weeks baby yesterday itself. I am writing this on behalf of my wife. I cant expalin how we felt when we came to know that we have to do labor at 20 weeks as all the fluid came out of womb natuRally.
Our baby was totally fine in the womb with all his function but due to lack of fluids he wont be able to survive. Me and my wife cried a lot after hearing this. We have to take decision and take out our baby at 20 weeks only just ensure my wife dosent get infected. We cried alot and my hands were litterly cramping when i hold my dead baby boy in my hand. I have lost my whole world and i cant tell how we are feeling right now.
26/03/2017 at 12:34
Hi Krish, we are so very sorry to read your post. Please do know, you and your wife are not alone, and we wish you much love and strength to get through the tough time ahead. We have an article which will hopefully help you and your wife with things that might happen over the next few days and weeks right here. We really hope it helps.
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