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22/03/2016 at 14:48
Hi everyone, Have your tissues at the ready as the new series of One Born Every Minute starts tonight. This had us thinking, sometimes labour and birth can be quite different from how you imagined it to be – whether you had a natural birth or a c-section, a so-called easy labour or a difficult one, what one thing do you wish you’d known about it all and what tips or advice would you give someone who’s about to give birth?We would love to hear all about it, so please do let us know by posting on this thread below.
22/03/2016 at 17:47
I have had c section then natural birth then c section, I wanted my second to be pushed out as I never got to experience labor first time round, I wish I had known the push bit wasn't because midwife told you it's time to push but it's an uncontrollable urge to PUSH lol and that if you want more than entonox you need it before that uncontrollable urge comes along! i opted for planned c section for my third from the beginning but as it happened baby was breech and macrosomic so would have been c section anyway. I wish the live you feel when you see baby for first time could be bottled and sold I'd be a millionaire xx
22/03/2016 at 18:04
I had an emergency c section the first time and a vaginal birth second time round.
I wish I'd known what percentage of first time mums actually have to have an emergency c section....as a first timer, I didn't really thi k about it, but when I happened I sort of panicked a bit because it wasn't my 'plan'.
My natural birth was just amazing!! I knew what Labour felt like as I did get right to the end first time round, so I guess I was a bit nervous about the pushing bit and the fact that would I actually know when to push....omg you do!!! Lol. So I would say, any worries about that...no need, your body tells you!
Out of the 2 births I would take natural over x section any day! 😊 but it all depends on an individuals experience I think x
22/03/2016 at 21:20
Oh no can't c-section be avoided?
I really want to have natural birth since this may be my first and last baby
22/03/2016 at 21:37
Hi asatori....don't worry!!* I think first time mums have a 70% chance of a natural birth 😊 I just never gave it a thought. They found out my first baby was breech right at the last minute, he'd turned in Labour. You'll be absolutely fine chick, don't worry xx
23/03/2016 at 02:44
I wish I'd known more about induction.
I found the 3 pesseries to be the worst part, I wish I had gas and air at that point. Labour was easy compared to that.
I had an epidural so I didn't have the need to push but the doctor said push like you're really constipated and my baby was born in 10 min. Not a pleasant thought but I was preparing for 2 hours of pushing.
Also, wish id known after being induced they don't let you eat or drink sugary drinks once you eave the ward and head through to the labour suite.
23/03/2016 at 06:32
my 1st pregnancy was a c section at 36 weeks because I had be very ill with hyperemesis all through pregnancy and had been hospitalised with it for 4 month I then developed pre-eclampsia so they had to get baby out, I was determined that my second would be back and this happened as I wanted but after the section the first time and it actually being a really good experience I chose to go through a section again rather than another vaginal birth and in the end the decision was made by baby anyway but which ever way the birth goes the end result is a beautiful baby and none of the rest matters as long as mother and baby are fine. So Asatori let the team know how you would like things to happen, they will probably happen that way but don't beat yourself up if things change.
Good luck when the time comes xxx
23/03/2016 at 23:24
Induction first time round fetal distress completely out of it mummy with drugs coz it hurt so much more than I thought it would.
baby 2 and 3 completely natural just a bit of entinox at the crowning stage fantastic births
twins babies 4 and 5 wish I'd gone for a section delivery was crazy epidurak great til delivery then crashed my bp very stressful as baby a presented sideways so needed ventouse as fetal distress baby b heartbeat disappeared born breach 14 mins after his sister not breathing purple floppy mummy panicked daddy scared. But no stitches back on my feet asap but wish I'd had a section it was too scary and that's me saying that after delivering 3 others prior would never recommend twins natural it was just too much but happy healthy babies nonetheless
24/03/2016 at 09:25
I gave vaginal birth. Two weeks overdue.. i thibk it went pretty well. The pain wasnt as horrible as I'd expected.
I wish i knew the after effects... due to swallenness i was unable to wee on my own for 72 hours...
But id do it all over again !
03/07/2016 at 01:40
I know this is an old thread but I wanted to add my experience. With my 1st I gave birth in a midwife led unit, I wish I'd have known that you can give birth as you want & you're given advice rather than told what to do. I ended up having to get out of the pool to give birth lying on my back which I since learnt was just guidance. With my 2nd I wanted a home birth & read everything I could & learnt lots of things like you don't need to have a sweep or be induced or have any medical intervention if you don't want them. I was unlucky to get a supposed pro-home birth midwife who kept trying to get me to set a date to be induced but, once I'd spoken to the supervisor of midwives, I was able to not be under her care in the end & was offered monitoring if I wanted. I think the stress of the midwife helped keep my son cosy where he was. He arrived at 13 days over my estimated due date perfectly fine at home 1 day before I was due to have my 1st monitoring visit at the hospital. So my advice is to research the kind of birth you want & write a plan, including what you want to happen if things don't go exactly to plan. Know that just because you reach the magical due date you don't have to be given an induction date. Also that an estimated due date is just that, an estimated date, it's better to see it as a due month.
& also to ask for lactulose from your doctor to help with after birth. For me that 1st time going after birth was far worse than the labour!! & to pour warm water over yourself when peeing to stop the stinging (or pee in the shower!)
08/07/2016 at 19:35
With my son, I had a meticulous birth plan. I wanted a totally natural birth involving the birthing pool, aromatherapy and minimal pain relief.
What I ended up with was pre-eclampsia, being given an epidural (took about 5 attempts and was the worst part of the whole process!) and induced. I was hooked up to drips etc to try and get things going but they didn't and it all ended with my blood pressure going through the roof, the baby in distress and being rushed to surgery for a c section. I didn't even get to feel a single contraction☹️
That said, my experience of the actual surgery was very good. I recovered very quickly and would definitely consider a section if/when I have number 2.
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