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Long term TTC & infertility
05/10/2012 at 21:24
We're about to hit the 4year TTC no2 mark and about to start IVF. Can ayone tell me what egg collection is like? Is it under GA? Will I be OK to go to work the next day? Consultant said he'd give me a note for a week off but as I'm only temp now I won't get paid. Also, is embryo transfer just uncomfortable like a smear? Thanks
06/10/2012 at 09:52
Hello I had my egg collection unde general as recommended by the dr because I had a lot of follicles and feeling very sore over my ovaries because of all the stimulation drugs and all the digging around there would have been a bit much. coming back from it I felt fine, not any pain, invaded because they did a rectal antibiotic!!!My close freind had her egg collection under local and was fine, she much prefered it, and you just feel so drowsy! she felt so pain at all. I didnt go back to work the next day because I had had a general and not considered safe to work and the day after that was having my embryo put back so was off for two weeks! having the embryo put back was fine, I have had more uncomfortable smears! it was magical for myself and my husband because it looked like a shooting star and that was the most pregnant I had ever been.All the best!
06/10/2012 at 16:26
06/10/2012 at 16:31
09/10/2012 at 19:35
Hello, we had our egg put back at two day because he was growing so well, 4 cells in the morning and 5 cells 3 hours later!I had my treatment at Bourn hall in cambridge and 2 days is quite common. I chose to have 2 weeks off because i do believe that being over stressed and shattered has an impact on implantation, my job is full of that being a staff nurse working on a busy medical ward. If you work in an office,nice peaceful etc then i would only have had 1 week off, im sure i read somewhere that implantation takes place at 3-4 days post putting back.when thinking about it the embyologist and dr actually recommended taking 2 full weeks off and resting up! all the best, look forward to seeing your I'm pregnant post.P.S dont have any regrets it would not have been your time if you were very stressed in life, you need a clear head for ivf/icsi!
09/10/2012 at 20:50
Did your work know what you were going through or did you have a good lie for being off? I don't really want anyone knowing until if and when it's successful but I'm sure you will tell me that I also don't need the stress of worrying about people finding out. Plus I don't get paid for sick leave now I'm a temp so I've also got that worry. We need to save as much money as we can as if we are successful I also won't get as much maternity pay as I did when I was a full-time employee
Congratulations to you btw x
10/10/2012 at 19:36
I told work, why would you not you get more understanding if they know whats going on. You are correct, you do not need to be thinking what other people are thinking of you. I under stand if you dont get paid you shouldnt have a lot of time off however even working as a temp you really should take off a few days! thats a real pain that you dont get paid and your maternity pay will be effected, it will be worth it in the end and you will make ends meet, people always do! Are you NHS funded or private may I ask because that will cerainly be effecting your finances? also are you worried that you wont be able to buy baby essentials?or is it day to day living?
10/10/2012 at 20:39
I do work in an office, though I wouldn't say it was stress-free. I don't imagine they would be understanding about me having time off to get pregnant which is why I don't want them knowing plus the added pressure of whether it works - we haven't even told our close friends. Once I am pregnant I would probably tell manager when I start to need appointment time off. We are private as we already have one child. So we're OK for baby essentials - unless they're all moth-eaten in the loft! plus ALL our friends have had their second babies or currently pregnant with them. So annoying. We were the first in our group to have a baby but we're the last to have another If we're successful on the first attempt then we should just be OK financially, except that I don't know whether I'd be guaranteed a job as a temp. I assume I'd get government SMP but that's about it, so I'd hopefully have a year off but need to start job hunting before that year is up. But let's not jump ahead anyway.
29/10/2012 at 17:25
lthilwenn - did you have time off work after the transfer?
30/10/2012 at 10:11
Thanks lthilwenn. Wish my clinic would work weekends but your cycle has to revolve around their work days and holidays! Just waiting for AF now. Thought she would have started to show by now but I reckon the worry of it all is delaying it....
30/10/2012 at 10:39
roberjl - just reading through these posts and I think you can get statutory sick pay, it's not a huge amount, but better than nothing? You can usually pick up a form from GP receptions, there is a starting point (I think maybe you don't get paid for the 1st 3 days but you'll get some after that), you're defo entitled to stat mat pay if you've been working as a temp. I'm sure if you google it you'll get a lot of info on government pages or maybe ACAS?
I understand your worries about telling your current employer, I have only recently told my boss what's going on, she doesn't have children and I was anxious about her knowing, but she's been great (so far...)
If it makes you feel better I have a decent job with a global firm but would only get 8 weeks mat pay (then it's stat) and I only get up to 6 weeks sick pay per year.
How long have you been temping at the company for? After a certain amount of time you gain equal employee rights.
30/10/2012 at 10:40
Yes, it's all go for this cycle when AF arrives.
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