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19/08/2017 at 16:49
I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm in my early 20s and my boyfriend is nearly 30. We've been together nearly 2 years! I am very very scared and have no idea what to do. Financially we aren't in a very good place, and he already has a child from a previous relationship. I was on birth control, he however wasn't. When we've discussed it he says we need to do what's best and that he doesn't think I'm ready... everything he is saying to me is like he wants me to have an abortion, yet I don't want to have one and would like to keep it. What do I do?
20/08/2017 at 10:26
First off. I'm no expert. Just wanna give you some advice rather than have no one respond to your thread.
I think if you're saying you don't want an abortion then you shouldn't get one. If you feel In your heart of hearts you're ready and want this then in my opinion you would regret it if you went ahead with an abortion. They say no one is ever really financially ready for a baby. It takes 2 and your boyfriend will have to deal with the outcome. And well if he doesnt stick around then you know the kind of person he is and you're probably better off without anyway.
Do you have any family or people close you can talk to? Ultimately only you can make the the decision, but people to talk to might help. I'm no councillor I just didn't want to see no one respond when you've reached out. You shouldn't have to make these decisions alone.
20/08/2017 at 18:10
Thank you for responding to me! I honestly really appreciate it... it's been so hard seeing all the views it's got and no one even offering the slightest advice. My family are great, very supportive and I know if I told them they'd be amazing but none of them agree with abortion- to them it just isn't an option, and even me suggesting it would be the ultimate betrayal in their eyes- I would be disowned! (Not being dramatic either, they're very religious and traditional)
21/08/2017 at 16:47
I agree with the other lady.. if you don't want to have an abortion then don't feel like you have to. It's your body at the end of the day and as long as you feel ready that's all that matters. People learn to manage financially.. it was one of my fears with trying for a baby. I still worry now but new babies only need nappies and milk (or just nappies if you opt to breast feed) xx
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