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29/03/2013 at 11:30
I really really really can't wait to start telling people, but we want to wait until after the 12-week scan to do so. This is starting to drive me crazy! I neeeeeed to share!
Can you all humour me and act surprised when you read this next sentence please? Guess what - we're having a baby!
29/03/2013 at 11:51
Really wow congratulations, that's such a shock bfp ;-)
We told quite a few people with the first bfp as we had several scans showing the heartbeat (parents knew nearly instantly) and I still don't regret doing that even if it did go wrong. We were more cautious with the others and with this one told parents before 12 weeks but only after being scanned again a few times so it was maybe 7 weeks before they found out. Keeping it from them would have been too hard.
29/03/2013 at 11:55
Wow!!! Great news
We had to tell people at 8 and a bit weeks as the rumour mill started!! I wasn't impressed, neither was H but we preferred people to hear it from us.
Just think of it this way, whilst its your secret no one can poke their nose in and tell you that you are doing xyz wrong and that they did this and you mustn't do this and you need to give birth x way and you must/mustn't call them this!
Next time I'm actually probably not going to tell anyone till after 20 weeks (if i get that far) as a) it's awful having to untell people if it goes t1ts up and b) it's THE longest pregnancy ever when someone tells you at 5 weeks pregnant
29/03/2013 at 12:22
Gosh thanks girls, I bet you are really shocked!
My parents and brother know, and so do my line manager and boss (had to tell them due to appointments/ them discussing my future role at work), so it's not as if nobody at all knows. And we're telling MIL, BIL, SIL and MIL's friend (who is pretty much family) on Saturday as we're all going on holiday together, so that might take the edge off a bit. But I am bursting to tell my friends! I will hold off though. Not long now.
Cherry pie you make a really good point, I'm sure the at will come very soon when I'm sick of people knowing and it being the only thing I am ever allowed to talk about!
29/03/2013 at 12:58
Haha you really mean you are desperate to tell more people ;-) I told the friends I would have gone to for support had it gone wrong but then I don't have a huge circle of friends lol.
CP if you don't tell me until 20 weeks I will seek revenge at some point!
29/03/2013 at 12:59
I was actually the opposite, I loved having our little secret with no one knowing! What CP said exactly, the longer they don't know, the longer you have without all the 'advice' and 'well meaning comments' xx
29/03/2013 at 13:05
I was the same as E, loved it being a secret and when one friend guessed this time round at 8 weeks I was a bit disappointed, my bloated tum was a dead giveaway though!!
Enjoy the warm secret feeling
29/03/2013 at 13:07
We told a few people, close friends and family, early on. I found what when i'd had my mc being able to talk about what happened really saved my sanity and helped. So i was happy to tell some people straight away - there is no rule to say you have to keep it a total secret.
29/03/2013 at 13:19
Lol TP, yes! Well the problem is that we don't live near either of our families, so it's not like anyone who we spend our day to day lives with knows yet. It's my friends I want to tell as they are the ones I spend time with most often.
29/03/2013 at 16:56
I'm 16 weeks now and have only just told my boss, still not my CEO or my team. Our immediate families know but wider, such as Aunts and Cousins don't know. I've told friends as I've seen them since 12 weeks. It's killed me, but now I'm so use to keeping it a secret I feel weird telling people, almost embarrassing. I'm hoping the reward for my patience is that it goes fairly quickly. That said, it's most likely my last pregnancy so I want to enjoy it too.
29/03/2013 at 17:08
You can tell us as many times as you like! I'm terrible at keeping secrets but we don't mind if you want to come and tell us every day!!!
29/03/2013 at 17:17
I've never waited till 12 weeks. I've always told my immediate family and closest friends early on. I wouldn't make a big hoohaa early on though. I have a friend, who had a baby in October and she kept it quiet for 6 months! I wish I had her discretion!
29/03/2013 at 17:59
Haha thanks jem, I think if I did a "guess what?" thread every day you'd get pretty sick of me!
Wow CG, that is pretty hardcore! There's no way I could manage that.
29/03/2013 at 18:27
Ah but think how much fun you could have thinking of new ways to tell us! Could take a while to get through
29/03/2013 at 18:41
The way I looked at it was, the people you tell early are the ones that you don't mind having to tell if something were to go wrong.
In hindsight I feel that's its not the worst thing in the world that people know before the 12 week scan. I got myself stressed about this as I didn't want people to know I was pregnant but then, what's the worst that will happen??? You have to tell them that you're not any longer.
That said, I'd still try to wait until 12 weeks before telling the majority of people.
29/03/2013 at 22:41
Fab news!! LOL!
I am having to stop myself telling people, I feel so huge and I am sure I am waddling that I forget I am only in very early days!
29/03/2013 at 22:42
Although maybe if we had waited then the MIL couldn't tell me I'm not allowed coffee or speak for me when ordering drinks! ffs
29/03/2013 at 22:49
See gillsy I totally disagree, it's so upsetting having to tell people that you are no longer pregnant, having to pluck up the courage to say it, having to then upset those people, then I felt that I would have to answer questions. So I suppose that's the worst that can happen. You need to more or less be the strong one whilst others kind of go through your loss too iyswim. Although I'm maybe in the minority but I certainly wouldn't be telling early at all I know it won't change any outcome. I suppose if I got a bfp again I'd probably tell some mders (isaacs bfp poor h did t know for a few data as I just didn't want to watch him worry or get upset), I suppose its each to their own though.
29/03/2013 at 22:52
I said the same to OH the other day, he told two of his work friends. One of them is his acting boss and I felt that was a good idea as if anything happened then he has someone at work to go to. They are good friends. I told him to tell who he wanted as long as a) they are discreet and b) he wouldn't mind telling them if anything bad happened.
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