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27/05/2012 at 10:35
I am so glad you wrote that. My baby is 19 weeks and I feel the same. I don't know why but sometimes I just feel that it would be easier if it was just me and the baby. I've tried to speak to other people about it-inc my husband. I am still on maternity leave and have worked all my life and I think being at home with a baby whilst trying to make sure your husband is happy is hard work. I read somewhere that if you stick together till they are 2 you will be ok and things will get better.
27/05/2012 at 19:51
hi mrs co6
wanted to let you know ive had similar thoughts, my relationship was far from perfect prior to LO - my oh wasnt great to me when i was pregnant, he can be very selfish - selfishness and a LO don't mix. Now baby is here he loves him so much, but essentially he still has a strong desire to put himself first while im absolutely always thinking of LO, our home, work etc it sometimes feels like he doesnt deserve much consideration after all that when he can be so selfish. i think we both neglect our relationship and i have the feeling that he can grow up or not while i get on with everything else. i should probably make more effort with our sex life and pleasing him in general but i dont feel like i have the energy or inclination! Sometimes i do get scared we wont make it, but as long as things arent really bad i sort of feel like the best thing for LO is for mummy and daddy to be together and i really could not bare the thought of sharing my son
for me this hasnt really gone away and LO is 9 months...however, it is totally normal for you to go off sex and feel you have no energy for your relationship, and an understanding partner should expect this really at the stage you're at. feeling irritated with your baby is normal - yes, you love him - but that doesnt mean the constant whinging and grizzleing doesnt get to you. as long as you can find ways to get through that without getting cross with him and you still feel lots of positive emotions towards him id say its ok. time out would do you the world of good, even if its just a couple of hours to catch up on sleep!
20/07/2012 at 18:50
Mrsc06, I would defo speak to your HV if your feellings towards your LO has changed. You probably have PND and it only gets worse....I left it 3 years to speak to someone thinking it would get better on its own, but it doesnt.
15/07/2014 at 19:57
I have to say this... I have been there for my wife since day one of conception. Have gone to all of her appointments, stood there without moving through labor and now that the LO is born, i take him to the baby sitter, help at night, help at home and our relationship is going from awesome to good, to bad to are we going to make it?. She has anger, feels like anything i say is a personal attack, etc. Now, i am not complaining or whining, my point with all of this is Since you (women) are the only ones who feel all of this, it would be wise if you talk with your partner and tell them how you feel. Remember that he is there with you and supporting you. Pushing him out the door on a daily basis is only going to end up there... OUT THE DOOR. As humans we can sympathize with the woman that just gave birth, but remember, men also have an important part in raising the kid. A simple conversation could go a LONG WAY...
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17/07/2016 at 22:40
Hi, my baby is 9 months now and I feel the same way about my husband. We're trying for another baby already as I have endometriosis but I don't really want sex anymore, or even be touched and feel aweful about it as I don't get 'turned on' anymore and we've only been married 2 1/2 years.
I've had depression for a few years and came off them when trying to conceive. I've had to go back on them due to post natal depression so maybe you should see ur doctor to see if they can help u. U also have midwife and health visitor to talk to.
26/08/2016 at 13:55
Im feeling the same way, weve only been married just over 3 years so don't feel like I should be feeling this way, we have an 11 month old and are trying for another, I'd love another and so does he. I have my own business so I work a lot of evenings plus look after our LO in the day, hubby works hard and I appreciate that but he comes home and expects to do nothing, he's a good dad but he's certainly not the great dad I thought he'd be, considering he only sees her for maybe half hour a day during the week sometimes he comes home & can't be bothered with her or plays with her for 5 mins and feels like that's enough, it upsets me, then I have to do most of the cooking, cleaning etc in the evenings too as he's been working all day, as if I sit around doing nothing all day, he's always snappy and never gives me compliments or really says anything nice to me anymore, I'm just really fed up
26/08/2016 at 20:05
Ho it was 18 months before any sex happened for us after my daughter and before that I got dad to leave as he was useless let him come back and things are going bad again
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