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09/07/2016 at 12:54
I had my baby on Tuesday, I'm not with her dad, we never were in a relationship, I told him I was pregnant early on and at first he said he wanted to be involved but then stopped replying to me around the 20 week mark.I still have him in my phone contacts so I sent him a couple of pictures and her name, date & time of birth & birth weight, he's seen them but not responded.I really don't care, that's his choice and he's the only one missing out.Thing is, he has two sisters(and a brother), one sister in particular seems really nice (I found her on facebook) she's a semi-professional musician, I know she doesn't know anything about us, I want to tell her she has a niece. If it were me I would want to know. But then I don't want to cause any drama.Would you message her/tell her, or leave it alone?
16/07/2016 at 02:23
If it is important to you that your child knows both sides of her parents i would message who ever you would like from his side...you have to think long term here...when your daughter brings home family tree school assignments, asks about her grandparents, what will you tell her? Its not your daughters fault she has a father that doesn't want to be involved, but, don't let that stop her from knowing her aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents!
20/07/2016 at 06:01
If you tell your daughter's aunt that she has a new family member, you are bringing her good news. If she thinks a new family member is bad news, there isn't much you can do to convince her otherwise.
Since you say this nice sister doesn't know, it shouldn't be dramatic to make a polite birth announcement to her. Since the situation with your daughter's dad is a little less than enthusiastic, it might be safer for you to be extra polite in your birth announcement. Perhaps with a small gift of candy etc to go with any announcement you mail, to share the happiness.
If someone receives a gift and responds by breaking social contact with the bearer of good news and gifts, then, it will not be you who has been dramatic.
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