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09/08/2014 at 00:07
09/08/2014 at 02:39
Hi wight... Sorry to hear of your loss.., i can give you the facts at least & hopefully that will help you feel a little more comfortable going forward.
after 1 miscarriage, the chances of a second are no higher than a first... So you have (depending on what info you look at) about a 15 -20 % chance of miscarriage. So... The odds are in your favour that things will work out a second time.
as to when you could conceive again, generally our bodies bounce back pretty quickly. Some women get pregnant again before they even have a period (although thats not recommended). For me with both of my miscarriages I had my 1st period exactly 4 weeks after m/c, then 1 annovulatory cycle (A cycle where no ovulation was detected). With my first m/c, after my second period i got pregnant again (so miscarried early feb & was pregnant again early /mid april). Unfortunately i did go on to lose my second too at 9 1/2 weeks in june. Although my second m/c happened after a scan at 8 weeks showed a perfectly healthy growing baby with good heartbeat, this is pretty uncommon.... Once a heartbeat is seen the chances of miscarriage goes down to less than 5%.
hope this helps... I'm sorry i cant give you any definite answers but there just arent any... Believe me I wish there was... I feel the very same fear about getting pregnant again & the fear of losing another... But at the moment the idea of living my life without being a mum is worse than the fear so i will be brave & try again.
if you need to talk or have any more questions, please feel free to post again.
09/08/2014 at 08:06
09/08/2014 at 08:08
09/08/2014 at 14:10
i understand how you feel when friends announce pregnancies... Of course you want to be happy for them but its also painful for us as its a reminder of what we've lost. Thats a perfectly normal feeling to have.
sure ... i dont mind you asking about the details of mine... I know that having info can help process things.
with my first it was a missed miscarriage. I was technically 10 1/2 weeks but the baby had not developed past 6 weeks... My body just hadn't recognized that. With that one I took medication to induce the miscarriage. It was extremely painful & i lost a lot of blood (as the meds give you full on labor contractions).
with my second I was 9 1/2 weeks when i suffered a big bleed... Went to the ER & scan showed baby was measuring 9 weeks but no heartbeat anymore so had died in the previous couple of days. With this one my dr recommended a D & E which i had done 4 days later. This was a lot less painful... Almost painless. Although it has iits downsides too.
14/08/2014 at 23:18
14/08/2014 at 23:21
Sorry to hear of your loss Butterfly. Hope you have a bfp soon x
15/08/2014 at 07:56
15/08/2014 at 11:29
Yes its difficult... Its normal to feel that conflict of being happy for someone but sad at the same time... & also angry... I dont beat myself up about having the occasional thought "why do they get to have their baby & I don't"... I know some people would say thats not ok to think that but it is... We are going through a tough time... Have suffered losses & life isn't fair sometimes... Better to acknowledge that & find a way to live with it than bottle it up x x if you need to talk i'm always here x
20/08/2014 at 21:29
Hi SW2, I think its is understandable to feel like that occasionally and your right about not bottling things up and try to deal with things and move on, its difficult though. I'm definetly feeling more positive, thank you for your kind words, i'm around if you need to talk too.
20/08/2014 at 22:12
26/08/2014 at 12:07
My best friends conceived in their first month of trying, but the baby died with a missed miscarriage. Baby died at 6 weeks but didn't register with the body until 13 weeks. She had one period and then conceived instantly. So within 12 months, she'd conceived twice, had a miscarriage and had a healthy baby. A lot in such a short time!
It is possible, but even if it takes a bit longer, take comfort that your body CAN conceive and you know you can carry a baby. Your baby will find you
02/10/2014 at 02:52
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