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27/01/2013 at 07:50
I'm due a lap chole on Saturday .
i know I may be out the same day and recovery is pretty quick ,the one but I have is how was it if you had a baby to look after?
H is nearly 15 months and not fully walking yet so I do a lot of lifting with her. Am I likely to need much help and for how long.
my mum is due to come and help on the Monday after but tbh her being here will be anything but restful.
her idea of watching Heidi is being on the iPad while she trashes the place and then the tidying is left for me.bascally she is just a presence but does not help around the house AT ALL!
im thinking of asking friends to have Heidi in the day that week so I can rest up properly and H will do the child care around work, and maybe mum come the week after when H is away and I should be feeling a lot better BUT will it be a waste of time? Will I be back to normal then?
27/01/2013 at 08:38
I think asking friends to have H is a good idea.. I was up really quickly post op even taking my drain bag in my teeth to go to the toilet, when the girl next me claimed to be in so much pain she couldn't move.. I found it easier to sleep almost upright for the first two nights or so and bending was uncomfortable. Lifting a toddler wiuld be a little more difficult I think... You may find that after your mother leaves you feel ok enough to have her at home, then you can just tell friends you'll be ok.
27/01/2013 at 08:39
Oh and I think you'll he back to normal by the second week.
27/01/2013 at 09:46
I'm trying to avoid mum coming at all as I just find it so incredibly stressful her being here and if things need doing she just doesn't see it and would happily live in a sh1t hole and I just can't switch off from that. It's so hard as I don't want to upset her but I know I need to rest.
27/01/2013 at 11:55
Like Fifi says, friends might be a better idea then. I could've gone home the same day but I'd been sick a few times and chose to stay for the night. O was only 3 months at the time, the doctor said no heavy lifting for about 6 wks but that was impossible! For me, walking and bending was sore for about 4-5 days, after that it wasn't too bad. You don't need the extra stress that your mum will bring if you can manage without her!
27/01/2013 at 15:07
Looking back at this its possible your mum could be a hindrance to your recovery if it will stress you out that much... Is there any way you could leave until later in the week for your mum to come visit? Could H take baby H to hers for the day rather than her coming to you?
27/01/2013 at 16:44
Fifiminx I had thought of that but she lives 3 hours away so is a 6 hr round trip for H.
I think I just need to stress to her how I will need my rest. She offered to come down, I didn't ask so ill see what her response is.
27/01/2013 at 16:45
As an aside. I've not had ANY fat at all since I was poorly and I am sooooooo looking forward to eating some yummy food
27/01/2013 at 17:18
Oh do you have your post op meal planned??
27/01/2013 at 17:27
There too much I want I can't decide
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