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Long term TTC & infertility
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15/11/2012 at 18:35
I think you have all said exactly how i feel, 24/7. I'm due my period on saturday (and it's definatley coming ) and a 5th friend has now announced her pregnancy. My partner and i have been together 10 years, ttc for 5 years. We are now awaiting IVF treatment due to unexplained infertility!! Everyday gets harder and harder, i currently have 2 expectant co-workers, one now on maternity leave the other due january and i work in a nursery so constantly surrounded by children. It's such a struggle everyday to have to put on a smile and help other families when all I want is a family of my own. I can totally understand what you are all going through, just wish someone had the magic wand to make all our dreams come true xxx
25/11/2012 at 21:28
just me, I know how you must be feeling, I worked as a children's nanny for many years, including while we were going through IVF. It was so hard, it was harder still when my sister got pregnant each time wihthout seemingly even putting any effort into it.
She had her 4th child last year, the day after I had a hysterectomy for endometriosis and I have never talked about that with her, but it hurts a lot.
We adopted a baby girl about 4 years ago and while that has filled a part of my yearning to be a mother, to have a child, it has not taken all the feelings away.
I will never get to feel my own child growing inside me, or have the joy of giving birth or holding my new born child in my arms and maybe now just over a year after my op, I am beginning to grieve that.
I wish you success with your IVF.
Thinking of you
07/12/2012 at 20:38
hey just me - I am totally with you, inconsiderate pregnant friends everywhere, how dare they flaunt their easy fertility in front of me, dont' they know how lucky they are? it is an exquisite agony that gets you right in the solar plexus. My first reaction to hearing about the royal pregnancy was "bitch" which of course I don't really think but doesn't she know it's my turn?! we are about to start IVF (ICSI - low sperm count) in the new year after 3 years TTC and my husband thinks I am obsessed but mostly supports me. I think he doesnt want me to pin all my hopes on being a mother in case it doesn't happen and I can't handle it., Whereas I have not lost hope and try and stay positive. Got the xray on monday afetr waiting since April to check tubes which I think had crossed with the Consultant saying not a lot of point in August when we got the SA back.
RoseMartha - oh the agony. how special of you to think of others
31/12/2012 at 19:05
12 years of marriage. no child...best friends, church friends, kids I seen grow from teens to adult moving on and becoming parents. All I get, is sorry glances, people giving me meaningless advice, doctors saying we have an unexplainable infertility. That's my life. Too frustrated to cry, be happy for others during there time of blessing, and even harder to pray about a child; since I have patiently waited for 12 years. Not sure what to do now. Adoption is so expensive for a new born. I just don't know. I'm getting tired of putting a smile and acting like everything is alright because it's not. I'm angry. I'm upset. Yes, I'm happy for all that get pregnant. But, I've done everything right and I get the short end of the stick.
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06/01/2013 at 07:26
oh brandnewwifey that is awful! i could hit ppl that say relax too! it is rubbish! How are the tests going? have you tried clomid? x
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06/01/2013 at 13:30
brandnewwifey, your situation sounds very much like mine. My cycles have always been fine...until I started trying for a baby and then they went haywire. I think it was triggered by a miscarriage that I had 4 years ago. My cycles became irregular and gradually over time I started spotting more and more. At the worst point I was spotting for 5 days before my af and 14 days after. I went to the drs over and over again telling them there was something wrong with my cycles and I was concerned. I was repeatedly asked if my smear was up-to-date and when I confirmed it was, I was sent for std tests. I have been tested for various stds (even though I have been in a faithful relationship for the past 8 years) on 4 occasions (what a waste of money) and they always come back negative. The dr kept telling me not to worry and that everything was fine and it was obviously "just something your body does and is completely normal". These completely "normal" cycles coincided with 3 years of unexplained infertility! I was and still am so angry with the dr for not taking it seriously and nipping it all in the bud early on. It would have saved me years of heartbreak and upset and stress. I think part of it stems from the fact that I look a lot younger than I am and she always seemed to talk to me as if I was a silly little girl trying to play adult. On one occasion she told me I was too young to consider having a baby (at age 28)!
Anyway, after the 4th time of being told it was all normal, even though I was spotting for 19 days of each cycle, I decided to start acupuncture. Within a month of starting, the spotting had reduced from 5 days before and 14 days after my af to 2 days before and 2 days after, and it continued to improve consistently from then onwards. My cycles became more regular and everything started going back to normal. On top of that, I changed drs and my new dr referred us to a local hospital where I was tested for everything! I was eventually diagnosed with endometriosis on one ovary and a possible blocked tube. We were referred for IVF which failed but weirdly enough, my cycles went completely back to normal after that first round...no spotting and bang on 28 days. It seems like the fertility drugs kind of reset my whole system of something. Anyway, 3 months after that failed round, plus my first acupuncture sessions dealing just with the endometriosis, I fell pregnant naturally. It has taken 4 years, many arguments with drs and much heartbreak but I am now almost 3 months pregnant.
Please change drs if you feel that your dr is letting you down plus I am a definite advocate for acupuncture. I just hope that this is my happy ending. It is hard because I feel like it is going to be taken away from me at any moment. I am just praying each day that my little miracle hangs on in there. I really wish everybody on here the very best of luck because we all deserve it.
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