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25/02/2016 at 21:02
Last year, we told you about the German mum who had quads (yes, QUADS!) at the age of 65. And now we're hearing about a 60-year-old UK woman who's fighting in the courts to be allowed to use her dead daughter's frozen eggs to become pregnant with her own grandchild.
Obviously, the case of the woman whose daughter died (from cancer at the tragically young age of 28) is incredibly sad, and we don't want to judge her for aching to see her own grandchild.
But both cases have made us wonder: at what age are you just too old to get pregnant and give birth?
Science is now making it possible for women to become a mum at an age way over what Nature intended – but is that a good thing or not? Is there an age at which you think it's just wrong to have a baby – and if so, what age do you think that is?
We'd love to hear your views. Please do share them with us by adding a post to this thread.
26/02/2016 at 10:31
Whilst I am so sad that woman in the UK lost her daughter I totally disagree with what she is doing. 60 is far too old to be having a child. People need to be realistic and think about the child. They may not be around to see it grow up and if they are they certainly are not going to be able to keep up with the child. yes I know plenty of 60 year olds are very active, but in 10 years time, they are 70 and will have slowed down and as they get older can they really cope with the teenage years? I personally think no. I don't say any of this lightly, I'm 41 and trying for my fist child but I certainly won't be trying at 60 if it hasn't happened. I don't think I would be trying after 45
06/03/2016 at 12:03
I have issue with anyone going through multiple & costly IVF tbh.If I had a spare bedroom and the money I would adopt or foster. When I read about couples in 4 bedroom homes spending thousands of pounds on multiple rounds of IVF it actually makes me feel quite sad and annoyed, as that money is essentially wasted when the IVF doesn't work, when it could have been spent on adopting a baby or child already here and motherless.When I'm older I intend to move to Africa to be involved with a baby home out there (assuming there is still the need for them in 15 or so years from now, which unfortunately I think there will be).I can understand the desire to carry your own baby, but honestly, pregnancy is not all that great at times and if someone gave me a baby I would love it just the same as if I'd conceived it myself.She's in her 60s, she obviously has the money and space for a child, she has already had a bio child so it's not like a childless woman wanting to experience carrying their own baby.Why could she not have fostered or adopted instead?My aunt is 61 and fosters children over 7 but is also qualified to foster teen mums with babies.In this country there are rules on not allowing people to adopt children a certain number of years younger than they are (she'd be unlikely to be approved to adopt a child under 5 unless there were some special circumstances) however she could have still adopted an older child or adopted from a country that has less strict age restrictions.
06/03/2016 at 15:34
I am a child of older parents, my mom was 42 when I came along and although now it's not a big deal it was in 1980.
I was lucky to be a bit more spoilt with her patience not being as thin as when my brothers were little and we got to go out a bit more often but as I was younger ( by almost 15 yrs) than the youngest of my siblings I was often lonely and felt the generation gap!
My Dad had bad health into his 50s and passed when I was in my mid teens, my mom also suffered poor health and passed when she was 65, I had lost both of them before I was 24 - this is hard to deal with.
I know anyone can pass at anytime but I still see people my age now with fit healthy parents in their 50s and can't help but feel my life would have been very different if I still had them here now, if my kids had a chance to know their grandparents....
I think nature has a way of saying times up for a reason, kids need parents just as much as a woman can need a child, however that child comes to be (ivf, adopted etc) but age definatly has a part to play in the decision - a 60 yr old can't conceive naturally so just because science can force her to that makes it okay for her to become pregnant??? I don't think so. I guess these are the moral decisions drs face but I vote for the kids to have a parent around and as an active participant in its life for as long as possible.
06/03/2016 at 18:29
On the other hand, my grandma was 43 when she had my mum and my grandad was 45, Grandad died aged 85 in 2000, and my grandma lived to be 91.I think in some situations it can work, but I agree that consideration should be taken to what would happen to the child if you couldn't take care of it.Older parents who have grown up children may have their full blessing and the agreement that they (the person's older child) would look after the new child if their mum couldn't. But those that are on their own with no younger (but grown up) children or relatives to help out ought to reconsider bringing another baby into the world when they may not be around to see out their childhood.
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