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07/11/2014 at 14:37
Didn't Think This Could Happen?
This is the post I never thought I would write. Today I had my twelve week scan and now feel confident enough to say "I'm pregnant....with twins!!"
I'm now 36, I've been through numerous tests to prove there was nothing wrong with me or my H, three failed cycles of IUI, one failed cycle of IVF and countless cycles of trying naturally using OPKs, Conceive Plus, legs in the air, brazil nuts, sex every day/sex every other day and various other supposed ways to get pregnant and I finally fell pregnant on what was my worst cycle of IVF with only two eggs collected and having to go to ICSI (lower success rates than IVF) because of bacteria in my H's sample. I am in equal measure terrified and excited about the thought of the next nine months, potential premature birth and how the heck will I manage two but I am proof it can work....even if it is after many hurdles along the way. Nobody starts TTC expecting it to not work and being referred for IVF was one of the hardest times of this whole rollercoaster but I can truly say having the support along the whole way of people on here (and Hitched BT before that) has helped keep me sane and positive. I am so thrilled that some of my other DTTC friends are also graduating to the BT boards - we got there in the end ladies!
So what have I learnt to share with those starting this journey? My top tip would be to Live Life - don't avoid booking something because you might be pregnant by that point. If you are then great - very few things can't be rearranged or missed completely when you have no choice - but if you're not, you've missed the chance to do something fun and that makes you feel worse. I've had some amazing holidays that we will never again be able to afford and I'm so glad I have those memories. My other tip would be that if you find yourself being referred for tests into infertility (which is a horrible word btw), tell people what you're going through. I never thought I would say this as I'm normally a very very private person but it was easier to be honest and say "we're trying but we've actually been referred for tests" rather than try and smile and ignore whenever people made the inevitable comment along the lines of "when are you going to have a baby?" We didn't tell everybody but my H and I were both open with close friends and family and it honestly made things easier. Not only did they stop saying anything insensitive but it meant we didn't have to lie about why we had to cancel things or not commit to events in the future. Sadly we found out who our true friends were but we know we have people around us who truly care for us - and who we are now very excited thinking about how we are going to tell them our news!
There are many new faces on here so apologies for an absentee Mumdrummer posting but I wanted to share my story as I know it gave me hope to hear from people who'd walked the path ahead of me. I wish you all the very best for your future journeys.
07/11/2014 at 15:06
Oh KK I'm so so happy for you! I can't believe it - after all of that you got your long awaited BFP - and twins! That's amazing :)
It's so great that Ducky, LoobyLou, CL, ST, you and I have all graduated from DTTC. Some wise words up there.
Yes it's scary and it'll be hard but it will be amazing :) xxx
07/11/2014 at 15:08
Fantastic news KK, congratulations! I have lurked on the DTC thread but didn't see anything about your most recent IVF so I'm delighted to see such a positive update. Thank you for sharing your story - it gives those of us still TTC'ing great inspiration.
Huge congratulations & wishing you all the very best for the next 6 ish months xx
07/11/2014 at 15:14
KittyKat, this is such wonderful news, many congratulations to you!! And twins how very lovely, I wish you a very healthy pregnancy xxxx
07/11/2014 at 15:16
Lovely to see you back KK! What a wonderful update, you know I'm tremendously happy for you and can't wait to see what your future looks like with your twins. I'm so grateful that MTTC and DTC brought us together, you are such a lovely, lovely lady and I'm so thankful for all the support and friendship you've given me over the last however long it's been. And now I'm getting all emotional and teary (damn hormones!) which is not a good look in the office so I'll stop rambling on. I'm so pleased this has happened at last for you, you deserve nothing short of complete happiness my lovely xxxxxx
07/11/2014 at 15:20
Gosh I have tears trickling down my face! KK I think about you loads and hoped that you were in a good place, I am so pleased to read this. Hugest of congratulations my lovely. I would like to wish you a relatively uneventful 6 months. Twins! Eeeeeeek, wonderful, wonderful, wonderful! What an amazing post! xxx
07/11/2014 at 15:31
I can't believe the run of luck we are having, especially from the DTC camp, can't believe I get to go through this with you all, we've all been there for each other when times have been so tough that it's amazing we get to share the good together too! xx
07/11/2014 at 15:37
Amazing news! Absolutely made up for you! Twins to boot! Fantastic. I love this place. x
07/11/2014 at 15:50
Aarrgghhhhh. I'm all goosebumpy. Amazing news. Completely amazing news.xxx
07/11/2014 at 17:28
Congratulations!!! 2015 is definitely the year for miracle babies!
07/11/2014 at 17:40
Wow! Congratulations! Thank you for sharing kk and I wish you a very uneventful 6 months ahead x
07/11/2014 at 19:16
Oh KK, absolutely made up for you, and sat here with the happiest of tears! Often thought of you and pleased you came back to update us.
Welcome to to twin club :-) what a fun journey we've got ahead! Do keep in touch x
07/11/2014 at 20:10
Fantastic news! So pleased for you xx
07/11/2014 at 20:32
Congratulations! that was worth logging back in for :)
07/11/2014 at 20:56
Omg omg omg! I am SO SO SO pleased for you this is amazing news. I really really hold you have a completely uneventful but wonderful next few months.
And don't worry about how you'll cope, you just will and you'll be a fantastic mum
I know it's a while since I was a mttc we but I still watch out for you all and am so pleased to see good news for so many of you. Now the fun really starts! X
07/11/2014 at 21:08
Thank you everybody especially my old mttc/DTTCers. Louby-would love to hear how you get on as you're way ahead of me so any tips gratefully received.
Love to you all
07/11/2014 at 21:27
KK I'm so delighted to read this and huge congratulations. I hope you keep well and can't wait to read your BA xx
07/11/2014 at 21:44
The lovely Sparkly Tyke has passed on your wonderful news KK and I'm so very happy for you!!! Absolutely amazing! Wishing you a very uneventful pregnancy. Smarties /Notts Lass x
08/11/2014 at 16:53
What lovely news!
I haven't been on Mumdrum for months, but was just idly browsing while my ICSI twins are playing and came across your post.
Welcome to the wonderful world of twins. I am so pleased for you. I hope the next 6 months go smoothly for you.
08/11/2014 at 17:14
Will definitely keep you updated.
So far, I would recommend joining TAMBA to get discounts and to see if there are any local twin groups in your area that offer ante natal classes or coffee mornings to meet others for friendship advice. Have recently discovered twiniversity.com which, although American, offers very useful snippets of advice.
Also, sounds silly but I expected symptoms to be twice as bad, babies to start kicking earlier etc...but that definitely hasn't been the case x
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