Does having a baby change the way you feel about love?

"I don't think you can prepare for it," one mum told us...


Comedian Russell Kane really got people talking when he said it was ‘distasteful’ for people to say you only know what ‘true love’ is when you’ve had a child.


Here at MFM, we have to say we agree with him – because people without kids know love, too, obviously.

Although, the mums among us also reckon that the love you have for your baby is probably different at least from any love you’ve ever felt before.

It’s not necessarily more or bigger, but most of us agreed that becoming a mum can bring with it feelings of a new and overwhelming type of love.

Here’s what you told us…

“It’s a different kind of love,” reckons Kathryn G. “The love your have for your partner is romantic and isn’t automatic, it’s built up and based on factors that could be broken.

“However the love I have for my son was instant and I don’t believe it could ever go away.

“I’d die for my son. It’s completely different and I don’t think there is anything wrong with distinguishing between the two.”

And Bethany U says: “I loved my husband more than anything else before our son came along.

“Never thought I’d feel love like it. But when our son came along, the love we both felt for each other was minimal to the amount we had for our son and the impact his love has on us.

“I don’t think you can prepare for that feeling.”

“The love for a child is like nothing else,” says Cat H

Though Eleanor G does reckon that to say you don’t know true love until you’ve had a baby “is insensitive to those who are struggling to have children or who cannot conceive” – which is something we totally get. 

And it’s also worth noting that this isn’t the case for everyone, as we know not every mum (or dad) feels this rush of new love straight away. 

What do you think?

Did becoming a mum change your idea of what love is? Tell us in the comments below or over on Facebook

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