Mum shares very open post about her gender disappointment

"I just couldn't see my life as a boy mummy - all I could see was pink and bows and princesses"


The issue of gender disappointment is a big one – but also very difficult to talk openly about.


A few celebs have touched on it – for example, most recently, Danielle Lloyd spoke about how she was looking into having gender selection as she didn’t want a fifth boy.

And on our forum, our very own MFMer mums have chatted about it too.

Sharing her thoughts about it, and trying to put one commenter at ease over her ‘guilt’ about wanting a girl more than a boy, mum Leonna Kettle, pictured with her little boy, said this:

“When I was pregnant with my 1st baby I was 100% sure that I did not know what I would do with my life if I had a boy.

“I just couldn’t see my life as a boy mummy – all I could see was pink and bows and princesses.

“After my 14-week scan I also posted a thread very similar to yours on gender disappointment and I want you to know that it is nothing to be ashamed of.  

‘The fact you are able to own up to your feelings is great’

“The fact you’re able to own up to your feelings is great. I was in the same boat, I had paid for a private early scan at 15 weeks, I even told the sonographer to be prepared for my reaction and not to think badly of me if she told me it was a boy.

She did not even need to speak because I could very clearly see a willy on the screen!  

“As many of the ladies have mentioned it’s much easier to spot a boy for obvious reasons, however I must add I do not want to get your hopes up – but when I went for my NHS 20-week scan the lady was so angry with me that I already knew, as she said that changes of the private scans being wrong are so high as some girls have a prominent labia. (It was a boy, let me add.)

‘The feeling of wanting a girl has never left me’

“I want you to know that I cannot imagine my life without my son, [but] the feeling of wanting a girl has never left me.

“I am currently pregnant with my second baby and for many reasons… I have decided not to find out the gender.

“I do think it’s good to have time to prepare yourself for the feelings however.

“I also know that that second they put a baby in your arms you forget any kind of disappointment. It’s really common and you are not alone.

‘I cannot speak for all women but I think there is a natural sense of wanting a girl inside most ladies.”

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